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flwrmaw 07/20/2010

Yesterday, Monday(the 19th)wasn't the best day for me. I'm trying to sell our RV bus, which I'm having a hard time doing. A person looked at it and wanted to test drive it. We discovered that the brake on one of the back tires was locked and wouldn't release. I'm not sure what to do, since I don't drive it. My youngest will help me and see if we can get a mechanic out to look at it, since it can't be driven anywhere until the brake is fixed. I found myself thinking...Chuck will know what to do...I'll ask him. Wait! I can't; I can, he just won't answer. Sometimes I feel so alone.

There were a few other issues during the day, that I found myself thinking..I'll just ask Chuck. He always knew what to do. My knight in shining armor...now in heaven.

deleted_user 08/04/2010

Chris, I hear you about your regret for not listening. There are so many things that I have needed to ask Rob since he died on 1/13/10. I can't believe how many times I have remembered Rob telling me something that I let go in one ear and out the other. As can often happen when we lose someone regrets pop up. One of mine is that I didn't give him my full attention. I realize that he had much to teach me that I just made light of. I would give anything to have a chance to pay attention to him.

Shrn 08/05/2010

I remember so many times when I would look at the clock and wonder why he was so late getting home. How many times his car was in the driveway and I thought he was here. I think for months I would wake up in the morning and wonder where he was. They really hurt when they happen, too. It was experiencing his death all over again. So sad....

You will be able to smile again, it just takes time. The human spirit is a wonderful thing-just keep taking those small important steps. Sharon

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