Hey Jeff,
When I got the final word on my wife it was a punch in the gut. Even though I knew she was gone there was something about seeing her name on the certificate that made it final. She also took pain killers from a car accident years before. I am certain that over the years these pills damaged her heart and caused a heart attack. The report said accidental mixing of her medicine but that wasn't possible. My wife had medical training to be a nurse and knew medications and was very strict with herself when it came to this sort of thing. Get someone to go with you if possible. I went alone it was tough.
Peace, Tim

Thanks Tim. I realize others have had to wait a long time to get their results... that's crazy to me.

I'm not sure if I can get anyone to go with me tomorrow, it was somewhat short notice.

I'll try to see if anyone wants to go with me...

Please take care of yourself. I hope someone can go but I'll be with you in spirit if it helps. Don't be disappointed that the folks behind the counter aren't compassionate. They just see it as a job not realizing this is someone's special someone they are dealing with.
Peace, Tim

First, the certificate is so darn official looking and then there's her/his name on it. WOW! It's true!!! So shocking. And, then the words, the words that say what she/he died from.

It's too much, just too much. And, every public institution wants one; Insurance companies, banks, lawyers......everyone wants one. It feels like they're meddling, meddling into your life, into his/her life! Is nothing sacred?

I'm so sorry that you're at this point......It will pass. Soon this certificate will not hold so much weight, powerf and importance. You will be able to file it away!

Stay strong for you,
Roz

I am sorry. The hospital told me it was Sudden Cardiac Arrest. The Certificate said pneomia and Sepsis? No time, on it. When I called the Dr he said, I am almost sure I filled it out. The hospital said, we don't have any record that he died here. I said, you better, I already buried him... this was in Memphis....

so true roz.. at first.. it felt so raw... but I filed it away, and I dont look at it as often as I did when he first passed away. Sandee, sounds like a bad deal to me... so sorry you had to endure that.. much love to everyone, carla

So sorry. I went through that also when my wife passed away. It was like tim57 said, a punch in the gut.

So was going to pick up her wedding ring and lip ring from the crematorium and almost being denied them because we were domestic partners (both women), and it was before gay marriage was completely legal.

Gay marriage was made legal when my wife proposed and then a stay was put on further gay marriages for a couple more years during which our beautiful wedding occurred and then she died. It will always kill me that the law prevented me from being truly married to my wife while she was alive.

But the death certificate, yeah, get it, because you will need to use it again and again. I have. It always breaks my heart to do it, but I have to. So I do.