hello,
so sorry on the loss of your wife. best advice I could give you is be around family and friends a lot, it is gonna to take time, you are grieving and that will take time , so more time than others,
you are completely normal by the way , I am sorry you have to be here, but this is definitely a good place to be,
great people are here,
hugs
Diane

I am so sorry for your recent loss. Numbness is normal for most people soon after their loss. As Diane suggest, look after your own needs right now, be good to yourself. We are all here to support you.
I twill take time, one step at a time.
Love and peace to you,
Sandra.

You're numb right now, your pain is very raw.

One day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time.
Lean on family and friends for support.
Is there a grief support group in your area? Maybe an appointment with a therapist would help?

You are not alone. We've all been on this journey.
We're here for you.
Hugs,
Janie

My deepest and sincere condolences for your recent loss . . . it's not an easy journey for sure, but one that you will get through in baby steps a day at a time. You've come to the right place for support!! A lot of great people and a lot of wisdom shared here by many that are further along in this journey.

Numbness is absolutely normal. You are still in shock. It's the body/mind's way of keeping you somewhat "sane" right now. Don't over think it. Allow yourself to be numb . . .it's okay.

BTW, I always like to add this reminder for those that are not familiar with the acronym DABDA (the stages of grief) . . and they don't necessarily go in this order, but rather back and forth and all over the place.

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance

All quite normal ranges of emotions you will begin to experience at some point when you are ready and the numbness starts to dissipate. It's okay . . you will be okay. Time eventually heals. Be gentle with self.

Big hug, Dayna

I'm so sorry for your loss. I felt numb too for about the first 4weeks. It's totally normal. This grief journey is a roller coaster ride of emotions. We are all unique in it, but yet feel the same. There is no timeline, no wrong feelings and just when you think it's getting easier you might have a setback. You will make it through. There is so many wonderful people here on DS to support you. We understand.

It's normal to feel numb and to look at your surroundings, your house,your yard, your stuff, and feel like it has no meaning without her. It slowly gets better but there is no easy way out of these feelings. Make yourself go through the motions of living and slowly feeling will return and the fog will lift. it will be imperceptable at first, but it will happen. I am so sorry for your loss.

I was numb for a long time after Art passed away on May 19th. The pain was overwhelming at times and I would just sit down and cry my heart out. I am having more good days now but today I woke up with that numb feeling again!!! The hardest journey I have been on. I find comfort in remembering good times. I was truly blessed to have had 30 years with him. That is why it hurts so bad because we loved so deeply!!! Hugs Sue.

I'm very sorry for your loss as well.. Last week was horrible for me, it felt like the day after i lost my wife, but the entire week ; I was actually numb yesterday for the 1st time in quite a while..tomorrow it will be one month since i lost my wife..

as everyone has already said, this seems to be "normal" and from everything i have read, its just one of the many ways our body helps us cope with the enormity of this situation. I will just add, you won't necessarily go through the stages called out, Denial, Anger , Bargaining ,Depression , Acceptance in any particular order..I seem to bounce around through them at this point myself..

This journey sucks, but you are not alone, we are all here for you

Praying that you will be strengthen, comforted and have peace while you are on this grief journey. It will get better as time goes on. So glad you are on Daily Strength. It is such a blessing to connect with others who understand. Stay with us.

So sorry for your loss. Sorry you had to join all of us on this roller coaster ride. I lost my husband July 1 st of this year. Things will get better. You have to allow yourself to grieve and let the tears wash it away. And be thankful for the "foggy" state you're in now. It really does protect you from going insane. God Bless You and here's a BIG HUG
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Rachel

Been kind of numb for 6 weeks. I don't mind it at all - beats depression. I know the "thaw" period is coming and I hope it is a smooth transition from numb to acceptance.

I'm sorry your Susie passed away such a short time ago. I remember feeling the desperation of loss early on. If you're numb and feel as though you're on autopilot don't worry too much about it. The life you had has been turned upside down, and the life you have now is foggy and overwhelming. Please do all you can to take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain I lost my husband 30 years October 3rd. I had to disconnect life-support and I listen to this last heartbeat. No words will comfort you. I've been told it takes time.i don't think I have that much time I have emphysema and since he died it's gotten progressively worse. I will pray for you and I hope you will pray for me. You are normal I also have been numb for the last two months. I hope you have family or someone you can depend on. Stay in touch and I will pray for you. Linda

Here we are, mourning the loss of our mate. Plodding through the muck and mire of life. We take a few steps forward only to need to take a few steps backwards to get a grip on the ground beneath us.

When will the fog lift; when will the skies clear; when will I see you again?

Questions that NO ONE has the answers to and we dare not ask!

We search for relief from this misery of sadness. Will life ever look inviting again?

I'm here for you and you're here for me.......That I'm sure of!

Roz

So sorry for the loss of your precious Susie. Take it all moment by moment, day by day. I am truly sorry. Much peace,