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Friday while rustling thru some papers I had stacked from stuff.
I found a receipt from last year where Roger sent his Mom some flowers.
I called local florist too late for Mothers Day so got online.
Sat they sent me an email said they ran out of the flowers I ordered but they said they could deliver some Monday so I went ahead with that.
I think Roger put that receipt there so I would do that. I never knew he did it. She is poor health in nursing home, recently fell, broke her wrist so had to be feed, broke a hip so has to be assisted to go to restroom, she is so down...
Whats weird altho' I have to believe its a good thing - Rogers one son went down there to see her - first time in 15 yrs that I knew my husband he & his family ever showed interest in them in any capacity. Its a 18 hr drive from here.
We used to beg them to send photos of kids for her. Aunt Helen thinks its for show, & says her sister Jennie does not give a hoot as she does not even know them. I hope they do not believe they will inherit anything (she does not have much anyway but...they think she does)
BUT I am going to believe the loss of his Dad made him realize he needed to connect with Dad's side of the family (almost too late but...)
I found a receipt from last year where Roger sent his Mom some flowers.
I called local florist too late for Mothers Day so got online.
Sat they sent me an email said they ran out of the flowers I ordered but they said they could deliver some Monday so I went ahead with that.
I think Roger put that receipt there so I would do that. I never knew he did it. She is poor health in nursing home, recently fell, broke her wrist so had to be feed, broke a hip so has to be assisted to go to restroom, she is so down...
Whats weird altho' I have to believe its a good thing - Rogers one son went down there to see her - first time in 15 yrs that I knew my husband he & his family ever showed interest in them in any capacity. Its a 18 hr drive from here.
We used to beg them to send photos of kids for her. Aunt Helen thinks its for show, & says her sister Jennie does not give a hoot as she does not even know them. I hope they do not believe they will inherit anything (she does not have much anyway but...they think she does)
BUT I am going to believe the loss of his Dad made him realize he needed to connect with Dad's side of the family (almost too late but...)
My Mother had brain surgery after a brain anyeursim and unfortunately was dependent upon a ventilator. We had no idea what she could remember so the nurses urged me to bring photos of her family. Each patient had their own little board where they could be hung up. Each time I visited, I took them down and we would look at them and she did know most of them. This gesture doesn't cost much--can be placed in a get well card and give a huge boost to the patient.
Most people today are just so wound up in their own lives that they fail to understand the value of some kind of contact to those in a hospital or nursing facility. That expression "you reap what you sow" is befitting--they teach their children how to treat grandma. Guess how the kids will treat them some day?
I even just sent a card w/photos of my new bathrm floor. I think the old ways of letters esp. to the older generation mean alot. I know I like it when I get them.
I think the younger generation if not taught do not know how precious they are. I am proud of my kids - they grew up very close to my Grandma that I went to see alot when they were younger, & we befriended an elderly neighbor for many yrs.
I do blame my husband for the attitudes of his children, they were privileged, & given alot. They were never close to any relatives growing up just their Mom and Dad. My husband said his EX did not like being around people so they never went out to friends or family. Which is why I think his Aunt & I are suspicous of their motives now, but I prayed they realized that relationships are worth more than stuff.