I am not sure. I only wish I had that answer also. That is something I keep telling my counselor is that I want time to stand still because every second I take a breath is a second that I am breathing without him and it feels horrible.

I feel everyday we make another day we are moving forward.. I know how hard life is now. How much we can care less if we even have one.. I also know we will make it through this somehow in our own time.. Sadly many people ahead of us have done it and can probably say they are doing well. I wish the same for all of us. *Hug*

I use to ask that question in counseling and her reply was you have already started
my prayers are with you and your family..

I think the choice is not ours ,every day dawns another day to get through. And we move on not by choice but because we have no choice. There are things we have to do and we do them out of necessity. So we are getting stronger slowly whether we feel like it or desire it. Still does not make the hurt go away. Hugs!!!

Everything you said is so true. Most days I don't even WANT to move forward, but as GoneForever said, we do it out of necessity. I'm not sure I'm getting stronger, or care if I do, but I'm getting used to being without him. I hate every minute of it and he's always with me, but as long as I do the old "take it one day at a time" I survive. That's all I expect of myself now. I think that we all just do the best we can at every given moment.

Sue

I still cant answer that question. I'm sure theres an answer somewhere but everyday is a lonely hell for me that I cant share with others thanks to the "political machine" as some people call it..

One day at a time is all I can do. Going to counseling now has helped a little.

I'm not quite sure how to "move forward" because I am still very early in my grieving, so I'm not able to let go and I don't think I want to anyway. My Vincent took his life, so along with the grief are questions that just eat you alive. Within a span of a few minutes, I can go from absolute grief to anger at him for what he did, then back again. I know I can't go on like this forever, but I also can't pretend just to make other folks feel comfortable. I get very irritated these days with people's cliche comments and suggestions.

I can say that the times I can stay busy are the times when I do the best. I have people I can call, but I have to be careful not to lean too much on any one person. My sister moved to England earlier this year, and I really miss her. It would have been very comforting to have her around now. I also found a support group in my area that meets once a week. It has helped me a lot. Sometimes you have to try more than one support group to find the right fit. The group I belong to is run by a local mental health agency and the moderators for the group are licensed psychologists who have a lot of good input and can keep things on track. I tried to find a one-on-one therapist, but I found that being around other people who have endured the same thing (suicide) helped more than talking to a therapist who had not.