Widows & Widowers Support Group

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hiskim
hiskim
Hi all, I just wanted to check in with you and let you know I'm ok. I started back to work around 6 weeks ago, and it exhaust's me. I'm thinking about looking into disability. I'm a lot less angry now, but so lonely. God watches over me and gives me the strength I need to carry on. It's been wonderful to see my residents again! I didn't realize how much I missed them, and I'm enjoying getting to know the new residents. So many hugs! I gave some of Don's clothes to one of his favorite residents, who is glad to have them and remember Don. Another one would like some too. That makes me happy and sad. I still can't sleep well but this too shall pass. I hope! Please tell me how you are doing as I love hearing from you all. Hugs and love, Kim
scottito
scottito
Glad to hear your okay and finding some pleasure in your work. God's blessings upon you! ~ Scott
JesusisOurSaviour
JesusisOurSaviour
I am so glad you are well. Seems like you have found some peace and joy.
I am well too. I am well too. I have a few things on my bucket list,
I look forward to. All is well.
Thanks for sharing,
Hugs from Sandra
wifeofjoe
wifeofjoe
I am slowly getting better. Not crying as much. I'm at about the 5 week mark. Hoping to go back to work after my birthday in early October. I am starting to miss my work family but don't think I'm at the return to work point. Thankfully I have disability time off through work.
loveddogs
loveddogs
Hi Kim, I am so happy for you that you are ok! As for me, I have to admit time is helping. I still cry daily, sometimes agonizing tears, sometimes just a trickle. It does seem to depend on what my triggers are or how tired I am. I still miss my love more each day and the lonelyness at night can be unbearable. But I have my furbabies and they love so unconditionally. I know in time things will get better, at this point I don't even care anymore where I am or who I am with, if I cry, oh well. I must need to or I wouldn't. you inspire me with your wonderful attitude. Thank you for keeping us updated. Hugs and Love to all, Michele
shaneslove
shaneslove
Glad to hear you are ok. Today was another rough one... but that is to be expected I suppose
wendimac
wendimac
I'm glad you are doing better...
Me, not so much...but I'm working on it...
Take care, and thanks for sharing, Wendi
billswifeval
billswifeval
I'm glad to hear your OK, I'm OK too and things do get better with time. I'm so thankful to have had my husband for as long as I did and will never forget that.
bookdragon
bookdragon
I am happy that you are doing okay! I find that as long as i can keep busy i am too. I do have tears, but like you the anger has faded. I am sleeping better except for tonight for some reason. Hugs Patti
lmj90
lmj90
So glad you are doing ok. I have hope that some day I will be at that point too but not yet. I still struggle daily and cry a lot.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Kim, I'm so glad that you're ok.

There's is no secret time on when everything will feel "normal", or close to it again.

It's a very personal thing, as I'm learning. I used to get envious of the folks who could move out of their grief within months and would be judgmental of some who were still grieving after many years.

Now, that it's me doing the grieving I realize it's different, unique and as individual as our fingerprints.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself and let it all be as organic as it can be, no matter how long the time.

Warmly,
Roz
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
I was eligible for retirement when my husband died. In fact I had retired aand he was collecting his state retirement check. I was working part time because I love being around people and my job was great. I took off work to be with him and an additional month after he died. His lung cancer took him quickly.

When I returned to work I knew that I wanted to leave. Many advised me to stay, but I knew what was best for me and I followed my own plan. Do what you think is the right answer for you. Sharon
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