Hi New, a sad welcome to this support group.

I know the uncomfortable feeling you experience from the passing of your husband. I missed my husband during the special events too. However, try to stay nearby to the love of family and friends during special occasions. The best to do is message your mind to new ways to be happy about what's going on at the moment and not to think too far ahead. And it is so true that watching the world go by is at times emotional.

Are you familiar with using public message boards or social media? I will leave you a link to how to better use the DS support network.

Find a happy thought today. You deserve it. <3

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us/categories/201138936-DailyStrength-Tutorials

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us

Hi- My first Christmas without my parents was so difficult. There were times that I didn’t want to hear Christmas songs because it made me cry. I love them so much and it took me awhile before I finally moved forward. I still cry whenever I miss them.

Thank you for sharing. I hope you will find comfort here. You are not alone, we are here for you. Stay in the forum and feel free to share about anything. May you be surrounded with God’s peace and strength. Take care.

New,

I have been talking with my local grief partners and we are all in the same boat. Two of us lost our wives days before Thanksgiving last year so like you, it was too new to even experience the pain we feel this year will bring. I think it will also be complicated, because people had an expectation last year that I would not participate. I think they may not understand my continued struggles.
I think I will alternate between trying to do the basics of life, communicating with widowed people for support, and feeling like crap.
I realize this is not much help to anyone, other than to say I feel what you’re feeling, and I am sorry for your loss, and I hope we all get through this the best we can.
Joe

I am grateful for the replies. When you are so isolated with covid, you forget there are other people struggling too. It helps to remember that. I had covid. So people have not come around. I tell people that there should be a special covid widow support group. This has been very lonely. Thanks to know others grieve and get through!

I am right there with you. I lost my husband March 14 and just went through all of my Jewish holidays and our wedding anniversary In September. Rough and emotional month. Don’t have any words of wisdom or comfort, but I am sending virtual hugs. Such challenging times on all fronts

I felt the tumbling down to what I thought was an ok space back to hurting again. I think for me the business of it has dies down and I am left with my thoughts and longing.
Thinking of you all as we journey through this pain
WR x

Love never dies and i think some of that love comes back to you through having to learn to love yourself. I would like to think there is something to be learned out of this. Maybe i have had enough blessings in my life and now i have to learn to be grateful for everything i have wondered, so many different ideas on why he is gone and i am so alone. Yet i know i have to learn to be alone again and see what i missed about what was going on with me and not everybody else but me. I constantly try and set goals...they are not always smart goals but it gives me something to achieve i try to mediate am not sure why i cling so much to life again but there is happiness out there as long as you can open your heart, I am not quite there yet. ((Hugs))