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It's our sons birthday this week, he will be six on Thursday, and it's the first one without his daddy. I dread the pain he feels; last week he was in a play at school, and he was so lost because daddy wouldn't be going to watch him. He had a dream about Ric the nite before the play, and the devastatingly sad look on his face when I dropped him at school played on my mind all day. I have learnt and am learning to manage my grief, the pain, the heart ache, the hardest part is seeing our son go through it too, and being helpless to take it away. I know on his birthday that the pain will rear it's ugly head again, and I can only try to make best of his day. I still find it hard to believe that this time last year, we only had five weeks left together as a family; it seems like an eternity ago. This new life is so tough, nearly eleven months on.
and hugs for your son.
Carla
I too am so sad that our son (23) will go through so many big events in his life without his Dad...and sad too for Ron that ha d to miss out on so much.....
yes, sad sad sad...especially concerning the children...
wishing you comfort and peace....
I am only 1 day behind you and it does seem like a lifetime ago since he was here. This time last year we were getting ready to go on a holiday to celebrate our 25th anniversary........
Wishing you some peace.....hugs
I remember when my stepsons had their first birthdays without their dad. It was HARD for them, and for me knowing how hoard it was for them. Their dad used to call them early in the morning and sing happy birthday to them, so he'd be the first voice they heard that day. I remembered it, and did it, saying i know i'm not dad, but i REMEMBER. that helped them SO MUCH. Maybe there is a tradition that thom and Ric shared that would help the day?
I am so sorry, and KNOW how this hurts not only him, but you watching him hurt. I wish I coulod take it away from you and know i can't. just know i am rooting for you both to have the best birthday you can, and I KNOW you will do everything POSSIBLE to make that happen because that's the kind of mum you ARE!!
sending birthday hugs to him a special little boy who is so loved by both of you, and hugs of strength to you my friend. the special mum he has is the best gift he can ever have. diane
MJ