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Today is my Charlie's birthday. I've decided that I want "our" life to live on. So today he turns 67, not still 66. I bought him 2 birthday cards. I often did that if I found more than one perfect one. I released 4 balloons each with messages. Went to the cemetery very early. I took the first blooms of the hollyhocks we planted last year together. They didn't bloom the first year so I cried when they did this year and he wasn't here. His Mom and Dad are buried close to him so I thanked them, too, for giving him to me. I sat with him for awhile and then came home to our empty house.
He was such a special man and lived through so many bad times and so much pain at end. I'm so grateful he is no longer suffering.
I'm finding what all of you say about the anticipation of special days being worse than the actual day is true. I don't feel any different today that I do any other day of this my "new" life - I am absolutely desolate.
Happy Birthday, Baby.
Julie
He was such a special man and lived through so many bad times and so much pain at end. I'm so grateful he is no longer suffering.
I'm finding what all of you say about the anticipation of special days being worse than the actual day is true. I don't feel any different today that I do any other day of this my "new" life - I am absolutely desolate.
Happy Birthday, Baby.
Julie
Yes, we miss them each and everyday and it sounds like you made this day special. Know he is there with you and watching over you to help you through each day.......wishing you some peace.....hugs
I really do think that after we lose them in the body, something happens and they BECOME even more of a part of us than when they were here in the physical, so YES they grow WITH US now.
Happy 67 charlie, knowing that your love here is keeping your legacy alive and well inside her heart
HUGS Diane
It still looked like a long evening ahead and then some friends called to ask if I would go to supper with them to celebrate Charlie's birthday. It was hard, even went to a place Charlie loved, but they saved me and I'm sure it made Charlie happy.
Looking for a better day tomorrow.
Julie
Happy 67th birthday to Charlie. You did a great job of honoring his day. That's pretty normal to find sadness in the day, I know I do when we have our family dinner get together for Stan's day of birth, but we do remember the specialness of him and our love for him and the deep missing of him----but you DID get up and go with friends to honor his birthday----way to go-----
This life we're in now---it's tough and deeply sad----but we're doing the best we can do----
peace and hugs,
Sallie