Has this has been said too many times before sadly, "welcome to the club no one wants to join". This community has been a big help to me because here I could share, vent , virtually be comforted and reassured . Let me say that I am deeply sorry for your loss and for you having to travel this part of your journey.

While this site is slower than it used to be and answers may take a bit of time , I find that reading other's posts was in itself helpful . It showed me that I was not alone.

It has been 6 years since I lost my husband in January of 2013 and I still continue to come here for those who are newer in their walk. Paying forward in a way but continuing to gain support at the same time.

Nothing is off topic while you are learning to cope with the "new you" . From learning to grieve our loss to celebrating accomplishing a task that used to belong to our loved one.

Here I learned things such as "It was part of the grieving and normal when I felt that I was completely alone even while surrounded by family and friends"

Let me say this much , Each and every steps ,no matter how painful they are right now, will carry you ahead . Try not look to far ahead at what you need to accomplish but instead look behind at how far you have come ... When my husband passed, I was 48 and having a hard time believing that I could make it to the next day yet here I am 6 years later . I have rebuild a life for myself and have learn to cope and manage and look forward to the next phase of my journey . I still love him, I still miss him. He still visits me in dreams once in a blue moon but most importantly I am grateful to have had him at all.

I hope that you can find here the support needed .

gentle hugs.

Thank you for the lovely welcome

Hi, My husband was shot and killed 12/29/18. Im as lost and confused as you but Im here if you ever want to vent. I do a lot of venting, its all I have

Hi. I an a long timer having lost my husband of 40 years twelve years ago. I met a man 6 years after his death dispite not being interested in a new relationship. I had never lived on my own when Don died and was exploring independence. The gentleman and I became friends and shortly after we became a couple. I am returning to this place where I discovered wonderful friends here at D.S. and hope to be a positive force once again. The gentleman I met has also died in 2017.

If there ever was a Hell this it.Getting used to being without him has to be the hardest thing i have ever had to do. We were together for 36 years and married for 33. I think he is with me and than i do not know..trying to change how my brain thinks hurts too. Future is so bleak But then i watch videos on youtube which talk about changing your way of thinking,so i try that everyday and strive to be grateful everyday ...thinking about my son as an example. Or the sun is shining..etc...than my brain tries to feel ok. Also toke up now and than helps to make me feel something else...seems like a life sentence and I think remember years ago when you were not always happy? It can be a chore but i do believe in the power of thought and that it will help. Also my son would be devastated if i killed myself so i stick around for him. ( Hugs)

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I am sorry for your loss, but wanted to welcome you here. Sorry you needed to find us.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Thank you Martha I find writing in my journal helps me

I used to keep a journal here and also carry a paper one to write in on my breaks at work or on my lunch hour. Came in very handy, especially on stressful days where people would say stupid stuff to me. I found journaling very helpful.

Hugs...

I'm so sorry! Welcome to the club nobody wants to join.
You came to a good place to share your grief.
The love of my life died suddenly 13 1/2 years ago, and yes, this is one of the hardest things to go through in life; but it does get easier with time. It doesn't go quickly, but each year gets a little easier.
How are you dealing with your loss right now?

We all have this place to shout cry and ask if we are going insane...its a great place and i hope we can help even a little to help you know you are not alone ( Hugs)

Hi Lynn
My name is Darlene and I just lost my 55 year old husband very recently on August 06 . Today would have been my 25th Wedding anniversary. I feel so bad for every body who made their way to this site. What a sad club to belong to . I’m having a problem convincing myself hes really gone . I miss him so much . Hugs to you and everyone here .

I am also sorry for the wives here who have lost their husbands...like me. It'll be 3 months this week my husband of 40 years killed himself....The why's continue to haunt me....we were happy, had everything....anyways, some very nice Ladies in here have listened to my story, made me feel so not alone....and it's right, none of us want or deserve to be here....yet here we are.... I believe this group will help us all...and we may learn different ways to cope with our loss....I haven't found anything helps except keep busy....talk to your loved one, vent...One day I am so sad, depressed, and then I've been mad....like why would you put me through this....why.....well I will never get an answer....but talking out loud to my husband is helping a little....and I hope he hears me...