Anybody out there?

I am new here as well and find it very quiet, a good thing in one way, but it would be nice if it was more active, I know the changes to the site have slowed down the interactions from what I have read on here. I was hoping for more communication with others. Perhaps some of the senior members can help us out to find more interaction??
Cheers

Welcome Khis and Sharmar. The new format has been challenging, but the designers are feverishly working to make things better. I'm sorry for what brought you here, but am confident that you will be glad you found us. I'm one of the community leaders here along with Cliffskat and Marjoe. My husband died in 2007 after a diagnosis of lung cancer. We had been married 40 years and I never had lived alone, so the loss was unbelievable. We were just beginning to fulfill our retirement plans and I struggled with fear and anger at the loss. Now I continue here along with my colleagues to help you find peace in this tragedy. Sending you a friend request and hope to hear from you again. Sharon

I am so sorry for your loss and welcome, we all understand the pain of grief. Hugs and blessings Katrina

We're here for you. With the new format its hard to find the new folks. My husband died in a work accident July 1, 2014. Its been a long road but this site truly kept me from going insane. People that have not walked in our shoes don't "get it". Its something that is with us the rest of our days. I can tell you it does get easier once you accept it. And that takes as long time. I found my self waiting for him to come home, I wanted to scream as loud as I could, and I tried to out run it. It just followed me. Hold on tight because its the rollercoaster ride from hell.
Rachel

Hi,
I am pretty new here also. It is comforting to just read the posts from others and see they have found some light. Being a widow/widower is such a confusing time with all the emotions and new responsibilities. We now have a different role in society that no one can understand unless they have experienced it themselves. It is a lonely road, but when I am on here I feel less lonely. I pray you find some comfort and peace here as I have. Hugs.

Rebl3157...you nailed it!

Welcome Sharmar,

When you are comfortable, please share more with the group about your loss and what you are struggling with and where you need help. My husband died unexpectedly 1 year ago and I am still riding the rollercoaster that Rebl3157 speaks of although it's not quite as "hellish" as one year ago. I have 2 sons (18 and 22) so am focused on family, my faith, and building a new existence for myself after the loss. I thank God for the blessings that I still have (my children, gardens, home and a job that permits us to continue on after the loss of my husband of 20 years). You'll find great comfort on this site with the relief of knowing that those you are reaching out to know exactly how you feel. Be Blessed Sharmar and come back often.

Welcome to the group no one ever dreamed of belonging to. I lost my husband March 22, 2016 so i am also new here learning to deal with my new normal.
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Hi Sharmar, welcome. sorry you have to be here. My partner graduated to the other side 2 years ago this coming Friday. I wish I could tell you that grief will go away, I have not found that to be the case. Although I can tell you it does get easier to abide, and that light and love will flow more increasingly into your life again. at least it has for me. & much of that is thanks to the people and sharing I've come to know here. Hug to you, Sharmar.

Thank you to everyone that responded to my posts. Your compassion and wisdom is really helpful. My story is that I was married to a fantastic man, who was from New Zealand, we have four daughters who are now ages 21, 19, 17, 12. We were on a family vacation, while during a hike, that my husband and I were on, he suffered heart failure, unfortunately we lost him there on a hillside. We were just weeks away from our 18th wedding anniversary. That was four years ago. I've been very stuck for the last two years. It's been a struggle with alcohol abuse and depression. I how have been sober for 7 months and am pulling myself out of my depression with the help of a psychiatrist. Two of my children are a away at college and I have two at home 17 & 12. I am finding that my job of full time mom and wife are becoming obsolete, and I am struggling with deciding what to do next. I had been sitting on the fence about taking a job full time, in an area I have always been passionate about, teaching theater classes. So, since coming on daily strength, and listening to those who have and are still on this walk of widowhood, I've made a decision to go for it!!!! I have decided to re-invent myself, come up with a new visual for the rest of my life. I have only known wife and mother for the past 21 years, so this is a new painting. I have been trying to do some new things this past week. I went to Adele's concert in LA last night. Took all my kids, we got dressed up, I put on make-up and wore my hair down (no pony-tail). They were thrilled to see me out. Well, that's a bit about me. Thank you again for being here for me. I do need your help. Sharon