So sorry for your loss. I am 34 and lost my husband this past March, his truck was hit by a train. This is a wonderful place full of supportive people who can help you on this journey. Post, journal, message there are so many ways to reach out. Again so sorry for your loss. Laurie

Thank you Laurie for your response. I was (im) a bit apprehensive about reaching out to strangers but no one I know especially at my age understand the difficulty.

I kinda like the stranger thing. The don't know me, my husband or the past. It freeing to talk in a no judgement zone with this who can relate on a better level then those who have been in my life for years.

I am sorry to hear about the death of your husband. The cause is a sudden and uncommon one (much like mine). I try to express the sadness of loosing a soul mate at such a young age. The unknown of how much time I have left on this earth and the agony of feeling like he may only be a chapter in my life... you know?

Mrs. Brielle, I am so very sorry to hear about the sudden and so very untimely death of your husband. I am glad that you have found this site and hope you will find peace, comfort and strength here. Sylvia

MrsBrielle: I am so very sorry for your sudden and awful loss. I lost my husband in Sept 2015. You are correct in realizing that you must let yourself grieve. I think I didn't allow myself to do that for a long time. The loss still is so fresh for me. Most of the time I'm ok now, but sometimes it is overwhelming. Let yourself cry, yell, whatever you need to do and try to take just one day at a time. Don't always try to be strong. I wish you peace and comfort. This is a good place to come to for understanding. Nobody else gets it like we so.

I'm 34 and lost mine a month ago as well. I too have been much better at talking with strangers than people I know. It's been very hard on me and my kids and I just don't like hearing all the oh I couldn't even imagines.

Nh54, agreed..... I look at people who are well in there fifties still married (may not even happily) and they say that shit to me.... what I would give to grow old with him

All similar feelings , I can very well relate to . Sorry for your loss , I am 32 and lost the love of my life on our honeymoon 3 months back very very unexpected and sudden without a reason known to us yet and without any medical history . He just had to go is what I feel now . No one would understand this pain unless they have walked in our shoes . I also like to talk to strangers and I have isolated myself from rest of the world . This group has also helped me a lot . We would never get an answer as to why it happened . Take care of your health , that's all is needed for now and cry it out as much as you can . I have started going on walks , not crying all the time now as before , may be one day i will get better but I will be still angry with God . Mornings as you said are pretty bad feel it's a nightmare and then suddenly forced into reality .I miss him so terribly :(

Thank you munmun for your story and I too am sorry for your loss. To have the excitement of "growing old" with the one you love and to have it taken away would be anyone's worst nightmare. Does it saddens you to know you have a possible whole life ahead of you? To know you HAVE to move on.....? I know I bothers me.

Hi Mrs Brielle. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. But it is a truth that you have to go through it to ever have hope of getting beyond it. Let your grief do what it wants to do. Not a one of us can control it anyway in the beginning. Just let the waves come. And you've experienced severe trauma. Others here have had similar situations as yours. Then there are those of us that watched helplessly over months or even years as our spouse was taken from us by something totally out of our control. All the time in the world would not have better prepared a one of us. Right now, you must do 3 things. Drink lots of water because crying will dehydrate you. Eat. Grieving takes lots of energy. And finally, you must sleep. Long term sleep deprivation proved to be my downfall. Know that no matter how much you think you can't go on another minute, you just do. As painful as it is, you will get through this just as we all will. But it is the absolute worse that life can throw at us. And I promise you that once you get through it all, you will be stronger than before. We are all here for you. God bless and comfort you. ~~~ Scottie

Hi Mrs Brielle, my wife of 35 transited just 2.5 months back and its been heart breaking for me. I have a 7 year old daughter and i hope to do her justice of both mother and father. My mother is supporting her a lot in these circumstances which is good. Everyone has their own way to grieve and i am just coming to terms with it. Its in this group only people will understand you since you have gone through this pain. Prayers to you for peace and strength.

All the after death things one has to take care of doesn't make things much easier. But an excellent support group such as family does help. It's just although I have my family backing me up they do it together happily married....

I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. To witness this is beyond our thoughts. Sharon

Im sorry for your loss , I completely knew how you feel as im still feeling the same way like any other widows there. Hugs from Maine