Hello George, You are in the right place...as you are aware, grief is such personal thing. You need to move at your own pace. 2 1/2 months is not a very long time either (I am at 4 months, today). I have been back at work since about 2.5 weeks after Amy died. Early on, when I returned home from work, I was physically exhausted. For me, the grief process just wore me out....I lost about 5 kilos (but I am slowly regaining a little weight back).
I do push myself, somewhat anyway. By doing this I keep communications open with the groups that Amy and I have made over the past 35 years.
Welcome to the group and Blessings, Peace, Hope and Healing for you for today... Mark

Hi Greece. Losing a partner is just as devastating. We don't need a piece of paper to qualify for this kind of grief. And yes, what you are going through is normal in this abnormal world of surviving grief we all find ourselves thrust into. Grief is going to do whatever it wants. Early on we learn the hard way that we can't control it at all. The sooner you surrender to it, the sooner you can begin the long hard journey to recovery. I've been in it now for nearly 18 months and am finally finding normalcy in my life. I'm not the same, nor is my life. But I've found inner peace about it all. God is our Healer, and He uses time and lots of it to put us back together again. As an aside, I spent about a month and a half in Cyprus back in 2003. I met many wonderful people from Greece there. I still have a coffee cup I bought there that I use everyday. It says, "Pukka Tukka". Any idea what that means. A brand name? A saying? It's my favorite cup :) God's blessings and comfort upon you. ~~~ Scottie

You are totally normal in not having the energy for life. I'm 7 months out and most days i get home from work and want to call it a day (my pets force me to do more than i want). it was 4 months before i went to a large social gathering but i was a family gathering so i knew it would be a safe place. Now i do go out sometimes but always with a support group- cant even fathom going somewhere alone at this point.
Everyone is on their own schedule for grief don't judge your journey against anyone else's - there is no correct way to grieve except what works for you.

Welcome to the group you belong. We struggle with the same emotions and having each other to understand and support us is comforting. You are early in this and I know how unbelievable it must be. Visit with us often and know that we understand. Sharon

Yes, you are in the right group. I lost my husband 2 1/2 months ago to cancer as well. I think it is very normal to have low energy and to prefer solitude...............I know I do. I am glad you found this group and hope you will keep coming back.

Hi George, I am so sorry for the loss of your partner, especially at such a young age. It is very good that you have come to our group, especially being so new to this journey of grief. Lean on us, you will find comfort, understanding, kind advice, no judgment here at all, and acceptance of whatever feelings you have. You are so brave to try and do things, like go to the gym, going to work, going out with friends, but if you feel more relaxed and easy staying home with candle light and music, it will bring peace, calm and tranquility to your emotions and spirit so you can begin to stabilize yourself. My husband John, died 14 months ago, in August 2015, and I went on a wild rollercoaster ride right away, listening to society's command that you have to "move on forward." Big mistake, so now I am just happier staying home, like I say, being calm, quiet. It is hard to concentrate, George, your whole life is changing without your partner. I feel solitude is the best so you can relax. I used to be an avid reader, would go to the library and get books and I could not concentrate, only until now, 14 months later can I can back to concentrated reading, but in light subjects now, like good health and stuff. After the death of our loved ones, George, our brain goes into a physiological brain fog to protect ourselves from the shock and trauma of it all. Just take good care of yourself, it is so important to drink lots of water, get plenty of rest for this grief is physically exhausting, and cry when you want to because tears take toxins out of your system. Just stay with us, talk and let out your feelings, and you will learn so many things to be helpful to you from everyone who is in each of their own different stages of grief, just beginning to years into this journey. Take care.
Hugs and sunflowers, Nanette