oh, that's so nice... no, have no one to count on, but myself. I had a best lifetime friend, since I was 5 years old. She died of breast cancer 8 years ago. I have really missed her. We drifted apart, as we were raising our families. Then when we caught back up, it was like we never parted. That's true friendship.

I have no one, too. You're smarter than I am, hellerat13. I'm realizing I've pushed people away so they don't see the real me. Now I'm so deep into a hole I'm too ashamed to tell my family about what's really going on with me.

It must be wonderful to have such good friends.

How neat. It is just starting to snow again here and I have shoveled and shoveled. If it gets bad I pay someone to plow our 300' uphill drive. I am so aware of all the things my husband did. I never missed church because he cleared the drive and drove, I am now missing church and not liking it. Daily I am more aware of all the things he did that I did not even notice. I am tired all the time, animals to feed, things to fix and on and on plus the paperwork of a business we own.

My neighbor did mine while I was at class today. I'm going to miss all these ones that help since John left. I must move in March...not wanting to, but no choice. So I will have to start again. Not sure if I am up to it.

Thank you for sharing! You are so lucky to have friends that help! I do have friends that check on me once in a while. I have a very small circle that I hold close. I have been burned in the past by what I had considered good friends, so I am very protective of who I allow into my heart. I am blessed too, since I met a very dear person, who I share my good days and bad days with. Take care...Patricia

My best friend sends her hubby over to snowblow my driveway. They are wonderful friends, and have always been here for me when I need them the most. They have 3 grown sons, who are like my own nephews.. they call me auntie, and they too are also great with helping me out when needed... I'm very blessed

Most of our family has passed away or lives far away, but we have a group of 6 couples that are still there for us whenever I call on them. We hosted so many parties with this fun and loyal group, that we are more like family, and they think of our home as their second home. Many years and a few hangovers later, we're still like glue. We are blessed! Robert

Being a guy i don't know how much people worry about us. Maybe I'm wrong. Sure some of us are handy but we still need emotioal support. I have been in discussions with a great personal therapist and its really working out. This personal therapist i feel has saved me. Alrhough sad i lost my dear wife i for the 1st time feel the future can be not just existing but having a bright and promising and dare :i say it a happy future. I feel my Donna is up there giving the angels advice on how they can
steer me in the right direction. .

I also have 5 very dear friends. At Roby's funeral they called themselves my posse. They surrounded me and have continued to help me emotionally through this. They all live in different cities here in Texas, i dont get to see them all very often but they are a phone call away.

Diane

I wish I had friends like that.

I have a few good friends. To day will be the last day that my son and his children will be living with me. My son had a very difficult time for the last month. Then as the new year came, he started to become the dad and son that he was before his father died. Last week he asked me if I felt that I could live by myself. He wants to get his life and his children's lives back to some type of normal. Even though I would love them to stay I know that this is the best move for him.
So today I was very upset as my son was packing. To my surprise my friend called me to ask if she could visit. I told her yes. She was very carrying - letting me know that it was okay to be sad. She confirmed to me that this was the best. I needed to get on with life and this was the next stage ( my son's townhouse is about 3 blocks from were I live). She stayed with me until the packing was done.
Then around 7:00 pm another friend called me. She said that she felt that I needed to talk. I told her what was happening. She told me that I was a strong person and I would be okay. She suggested a dog for company. These are just two of the wonderful people I have in my life or who I can count on.
I am glad that both my husband and I made sure we friends had that were our friends, he had his friends and I had my friends.

I am the one who shovels and uses the snow blower to do my driveway , that part I don`t mind. Grass cutting on the other hand!!!
My MIL gets annoyed when she finds out I have cleared the snow as she feels that the neighbours should do it out of the kindness of their heart. At 86 she does not understand that it`s o.k. for me to do it myself. On the other hand , should I need something, I can call on my brothers and some friends to help. I just don`t like to impose on others.