Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I am going on 17 months the 3rd of May...but still feeling lost, really scared and not at all myself anymore. It still hurts so bad..both my body and soul.
I used to be one of the most patient people, was not one to snap, was not one to be open about my feelings. But lately, I have become a whole different person, someone I don't recoginize or really like anymore. I am afraid that it has affected my relationship with my kids, which is the last thing I want, they are all I have in this world now.
I worry about everything and am scared all the time, I try to tell myself to just take one day at a time, but it doesn't seem to work. I have actually made myself sick from worry.
I never thought in my whole life, that I would ever be without a life partner, especially at my age, I hate it. Next to my concern about financial stability, being alone is right beside that. I can't seem to just relax and have Faith that I will be ok, even if I am to live the rest of my life as a single adult.
My dear Paul did his best to get me to just have Faith, I believe he had enough faith for both of us.
I have had people tell me that I must be very strong for going through all that I have, especially in the last 3 years. After losing two husbands in such a short amount of time(a year and seven months apart). I don't feel strong, if anything I feel the opposite.
Thank you for allow me to express my feelings. It has been such a blessing to have such a special group of friends, that truly understand what it feels like to loss the love of your life.
I used to be one of the most patient people, was not one to snap, was not one to be open about my feelings. But lately, I have become a whole different person, someone I don't recoginize or really like anymore. I am afraid that it has affected my relationship with my kids, which is the last thing I want, they are all I have in this world now.
I worry about everything and am scared all the time, I try to tell myself to just take one day at a time, but it doesn't seem to work. I have actually made myself sick from worry.
I never thought in my whole life, that I would ever be without a life partner, especially at my age, I hate it. Next to my concern about financial stability, being alone is right beside that. I can't seem to just relax and have Faith that I will be ok, even if I am to live the rest of my life as a single adult.
My dear Paul did his best to get me to just have Faith, I believe he had enough faith for both of us.
I have had people tell me that I must be very strong for going through all that I have, especially in the last 3 years. After losing two husbands in such a short amount of time(a year and seven months apart). I don't feel strong, if anything I feel the opposite.
Thank you for allow me to express my feelings. It has been such a blessing to have such a special group of friends, that truly understand what it feels like to loss the love of your life.
When we introject another person...love them...and then lose them...we sometimes try to hold off the grief because we think we will break in two if we ever start the process of release of our losses.
Throughout the whole of your relationship, you were a complete and functional person. You still are and I don't think your loved one...were the roles reversed...would want to see you excessively grieving...and vice versa.
If it were you, wouldn't you want to release your mate from the fear of separation?
Just a few thoughts. I hope you regain your strength soon. I appreciate your honesty and I know these things are very hard.
Fate, not God, sent us the anguish. WHen we try to deal with it, we find out we are not strong. We get weak, we get tired, we get angry, overwhelmed. We began to wonder how will we make it through all the years But when we reach the limits of our strength and courage, something unexpected happens. We find reenforcement coming from outside of ourselves. And in the knowledge that we are not alone, that God is on our side, we manage to go on. Harold S Kusher
"Forever remembered" Cherished memories of hope, love and comfort from courageous people who have lost a loved one"