I have a general question, just out of curiosity. Did most of you have the type of funeral for your spouse that you wanted? Did anyone feel that they were just swept along by what the rest of the family wanted? In my case, my sister-in-law offered to pay for 90% of the funeral expenses and I let her since money was tight. Since she was "in control", I didn't fight her about a few things I would have done differently, and cheaper, and perhaps more appropriately. Looking back, I think my main complaint was that whereas she is dominating and the family all know her, she sort of took center stage, and as the widow who only had been in the family for 15 years, I actually was sort of in the background. His friends all talked with me, but family mostly hung around her and her family. My biggest input was the short speech I prepared about how wonderful Stan was, which I asked the pastor to read. Overall, I was satisfied, but just didn't feel at any time like I was really in charge. Was this kind of a typical experience? Comments please.
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