This is my first Thanksgiving without my dear husband as well so know exactly what you are feeling and thinking. To top it off I am battling a virus so decided to stay home alone and not share the germs. So it is a day of reflection, tears, and remembrance. I don't feel the least bit festive either. It will be good for you to share the time with your son and his wife who are feeling a loss as well. Prayers for you.

I understand completely as Vern has only been gone two months now and this will be my first Thanksgiving without him, too. It will be strange, after 48 years, not to hear him laughing with us and sharing the meal. I, too, am going to my son's next door for the dinner, my daughter will be with me and we will find much to be thankful for...but it won't erase the pain, the lump in the throat, the tears that seem to come from nowhere...only time will take care of that, I'm afraid.

Don't worry about trying to be festive if you don't feel like it...your family will understand. You may find quiet ways to enjoy the day, at least I hope so. You will be in my thoughts and in my heart today...Marilyn

My first one, too. So sad. I hope all of you can find at least a bit of comfort this day. Take care all and God Bless.
-MJ

My first also.. He is only gone a few weeks from me. I am with family but having such a hard time. I want to see him sleeping in his seat in the living room. I want to hear him complain about how hot it is in here.

I know we are all in this together and I wish you peace today.

This is such a day of rememberance of the past, and realizing the present, and it's HARDER than we ever imagine it to be.

I just hope that as we remember the past, we can smile along with the tears and remember all the things we have had, and still have in our lives. We had love, and that something no one and nothing, no days can ever take away.

Hopes that that carries us trough to be able to love the one in our life, and make even more memories knoing that our loves are looking down on us and smiling with pride at their legacies living on through us.

HUGS and wishes for peace in the day

Diane

My first Thanksgiving without my wife. My son and his family live about a hundred yards down the street and they wanted me to come over, but there is going to be just to many people there and I have a problem with food. My grandaughter stopped in to check on me and that was nice. I'm doing a little bit of crying, but that's OK. I'm not planning to do anything today except to sit here with these support groups and not feel alone.

yes it my first Thanksgiving without my husband. haveing dinner at our house. it really hard but i know he be near by smell the foood. he love Thanksgiving Day. BIG HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE. God bless all. jan

Our first holiday apart too. I lost my husband 6 weeks ago today. Feel a sort of sickness in the pit of my stomach, and lump in my throat - burning behind my eyes. Trying to forget what day it is by not turning on the telly (too many parades and holiday references).

Being here on DS and reading the newly arrived grief books is helping a little bit. I stayed up til almost 6 a.m. so that I could sleep in as late as possible.

Trying to imagine him with his family, and mine, and his friends who have gone before him. That brings my heart a little ease.

My heart and prayers go out to you all. This is also my first Thanksgiving without my husband. Last year at this time, I spent Thanksgiving day at hospice, saying my goodbyes to him. He died four days later. I choose to spend the day alone, reflecting. Just wasnt up to putting on a smile today. The need for alone time, seemed to be greater than being with other people. Spent the morning writing a poem. Just reflecting and thanking God for bringing me this far. My heart is mending, and I am growing stronger as Im sure yours will too. Just takes time and faith. God Bless You

This is the first Thanksgiving without my husband as well and I had planned not to go anywhere but my grief counselor advised me to deal with it now, because if I don't deal with it now, next year will be harder. Thanksgiving was my husband's favorite holiday and last year we had a big party at our house and it was full of joy - today, I feel sad and not in a celebratory mood. I will go to my in-laws for lunch and hope I can hold it together. Prayers for all of us. Connie

This is my first Thanksgiving with my husband. It is a sad day. I though I could make it but so I haven't done a good job.

Prayers and hugs to each and everyone of you.

This was also my first Thanksgiving without Bob. It was MUCH easier than I had thought it would be. My daughter,her husband and their 2 sons plus a friend of my daughter and my son and my dad were here. I got through the dinner and everything well, now that everyone but my son is gone I'm missing Bob. I miss him everyday,and today was no different but it was not a lot harder either. He died on Jan.3 of this year so I think New Year is going to be a really hard one for me. Hugs to all. Hope you had the best day you could.

Guess I'll join the "first Thanksgiving without him " club too... Mike passed away a week and a day after last Thanksgiving...I knew it would be the last one with him...recalling those memories of last year was rough...and when i sat down at my sister's at one of the tables that was set for 4 of us, and realized that there was an odd seat, I lost it...said to my BIL." I just messed up the seating..." and had to get up and go cry...and he just followed me, put his arms around me and prayed for comfort for me...boy, do I LOVE my family....

This year was the first thanksgiving without my husband as well. We have thanksgiving earlier here in Canada and Larry passed away on November 6th of last year. I decided not to celebrate the holiday this year with anyone and sat home alone looking at pictures and going over the wonderful memories we shared together. I know it was the right thing for me to do at the time but I have decided I need to try my best to find joy in Christmas for my children and my wonderful grandchildren. I am so sorry that we all have such heavy hearts and I hope and pray they lighten with time and support from each other, Hugs Lu Ann

Mine too. I am still standing. Peace and blessings to each and everyone one of you. Uplifting you all in prayer....Hugs.