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Feeling Unenthusiastic Today

Thankful
Thankful


My husband of 23 years lost his battle with colon cancer 3 years ago.  The word “husband” seems inadequate. He truly was my best friend. We literally grew up together and I have very few memories that don’t involve him. I know I should be thankful for finding the love of my life so young, and creating 4 beautiful, well-adjusted children. And I am. It’s just that some days it’s hard to thank God for the amazing life we had, because I feel so cheated.  Three years later and I still have moments when I forget he’s gone.  Every time I work up the enthusiasm to go somewhere or do something new, I remember that he’s not here to share it with me and I lose interest. I know this isn’t the life he’d want for me and it’s that thought and my kids that keeps me going. I do want to be happy again.

scottito
scottito
Hang in there thankful. All of us that had such wonderful marriages were blessed beyond measure. Every person is unique as is every marriage. But when it's right, it's tight (or something like that :) Didn't end the way any of us thought -- always too soon for the one left behind. Seems to me that some of us are just meant to be with that special someone we love. Brings out the best in me anyway. I think I'm ready to try doing things on my own now. I love doing landscape photography and think I may do a little traveling just to shoot pics. Try to find something you might enjoy doing by yourself. And try it. And if that doesn't work, just think of something else, and try it. No one but ourselves to tell us no. We've just gotta live this life for all its worth in whatever time we have left. You'll do just fine. ~~~ Scottie
luckydaughter
luckydaughter
Sorry for your loss. I don't think we "should" feel thankful if we aren't feeling it at the moment. Like you, I had a wonderful marriage to my best friend and I AM thankful for that, but there are times I feel cheated because we won't get to grow old together. We had a wonderful life and I WAS lucky..................but I would have been a helluva lot luckier if he hadn't gotten cancer and died. Hang in there. Sylvia
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