Sorry to hear about the passing of your partner. Two months is not that long. Grieving is a long process of coming to terms with what you have lost and how to move forward in life without your rock.

Welcome to the group which no one wants to join. There are many compassionate people here who are on the same journey, suffering a similar pain. You can read some of the other posts to learn about their stories. If you feel the need to vent feel free as well.

I am sorry for the loss that brought you here but glad you found us. The early days are very very hard. It's important for you to do what you can muster to take care of yourself. Drink extra water - it helps combat the dehydration from the crying. I remember thinking how I couldn't believe I could hold so many tears - I cried an ocean over Cliff. If you can, try to eat a little something, one decent meal a day if you can manage it. Your grief will be very draining physically and that makes it even harder emotionally.

I hope you are getting some counseling through hospice or elsewhere. It does help to be able to talk about your loss, not just here online but also in the real world. I had counseling through my work's Employee Assistance Program, and that helped me a lot.

I am sorry anyone ever needs to be here, but want to welcome you to the group.

Love and Hugs,
Martha, co-Community Leader

My Deepest Sympathy, I'm so sorry. Welcome to this wonderful group of caring people. Everyone feels your pain. We have all been on this awful journey. Please know it will take some time but you will start to heal. May peace be with you. Hugs, From Dolores

IT is the worst feeling in those early days, I really feel for you...and all the more sad and painful at these holiday times...My husband Also passed with Lung cancer...Try and accept all the support you can..and know that there will still be to
times of happiness and laughter...if these feelings arise, for whatever reason, accept them without guilt...they are meant to keep us going...Time as everyone told me in those early days really is the best healer...you will get through...and the world will be a happy place for you again...DS and the people who had experienced loss before me were absolutely wonderful to me...including
Martha above...they were an absolute lifeline to the future for me...and I wish the same for you...
Wishing you peace and serenity for your aching heart...
Hugs....Diana....

Hang in there. It is such a long journey. I am only 24 days ahead of you. I am reading a book these days entitled Last Will and Testament of a Lover. It is a series of messages from a dying husband to his wife. It is really helpful, in that it addresses so many of the phases of grief that I experience and how he would like his wife to work through them. I am actually reading it aloud to my Mary at bedtime. I am sure she is listening. And encouraging me to be learning from his message.

Hang in there. Like you, I could not bear a greater loss than my wife Juanita's death to cancer nearly 3 years ago. I hit bottoms I never knew existed. She was my purpose in life, and when she left me, I was beyond lost. But with time, I was able to rebound and now I believe I'm doing much better. Take time to discover yourself. He loved you. Why? What is in you that he saw? Become your best friend, be comfortable with just you, and change those things you don't like to become a better person. This is a long journey, no doubt. But they want us to keep going, cheering us on. Take care of yourself now. Scott

Feeling lost sounds about right, especially so early in the journey. That fog will lift, but it will take time and a little effort on your part. I found that grief comes in waves — a tsunami at times and at others more gently. But like the ocean tides, it will be constant at some level. Just know that by keeping the faith that you’ll weather each squall, you’ll find a way to ride them out. This group has helped me do just that.

Thank you all for your lovely words. Its good to know the feelings I am going through have been shared by you all. Thank you for the suport of this group! X

so sorry for your loss. As others have said before me this is a very long journey. You are not alone. I am at the 3 1/2 year mark and sometimes I still count the days and hours since I lost my husband. I have found that being here at DS gives me support that no one else can. Please try to take care of yourself. My advice to you would be to listen to your self. If you need to scream then do it, if you need to cry and cry some more than do it. don't try to stuff the feelings. Feel each and every one. Allow yourself those raw feelings and don't be ashamed or worried about others. Just focus on you and what you need in that very moment. Minute by minute, hour by hour and day by day. What ever and how ever you need to do to get to the next task. I spent the first few months going from my bed to my recliner and then back. My sons needed me and I did the best I could but it was hard. You will feel defeated but please don't ignore the feelings no matter what. Our minds have a way of protecting us but we must take small steps too. I write things in a journal. I write them to my husband as if he were here reading my thoughts. It has helped me have a place to "put" my fears. Hugs to you
Lisa

Thank you Lisa I have started a journal that i write in each night telling Don about my day and how I am feeling xx