Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Hey guys. I haven't posted in a long time here.
I'm back because I am cleaning out my house.
I've gotten rid of a lot of things that didn't really mean anything to me.
I was going through a junk room and I found my wife's wedding dress.
I don't really know what to do with it.
I feel shame when I think of getting rid of it.
I need to do something with it but I have no idea what.
This is the first thing that was so important to the both of us that I've thought about getting rid of.
If I put it away in the attic rodents will probably eat it or the extreme heat and cold every year will dry rot it.
It's been a little over a year since her death.
I don't want to forget her.
I just want to move forward.
With most things it's easy, with others it's hard.
I would like some idea of what to do with it.
For right now I guess it will stay in the closet.
Is it wrong of me not to want a memory like that around the home,To throw it away like it was just a dream and move on?
I can never forget her but I like to have memories of her around that proves that she existed.
It feels like I'm throwing her away in a way.
I want to respect her memory.
I don't know what to do.
I'm back because I am cleaning out my house.
I've gotten rid of a lot of things that didn't really mean anything to me.
I was going through a junk room and I found my wife's wedding dress.
I don't really know what to do with it.
I feel shame when I think of getting rid of it.
I need to do something with it but I have no idea what.
This is the first thing that was so important to the both of us that I've thought about getting rid of.
If I put it away in the attic rodents will probably eat it or the extreme heat and cold every year will dry rot it.
It's been a little over a year since her death.
I don't want to forget her.
I just want to move forward.
With most things it's easy, with others it's hard.
I would like some idea of what to do with it.
For right now I guess it will stay in the closet.
Is it wrong of me not to want a memory like that around the home,To throw it away like it was just a dream and move on?
I can never forget her but I like to have memories of her around that proves that she existed.
It feels like I'm throwing her away in a way.
I want to respect her memory.
I don't know what to do.
Maggie
Do you have a daughter, niece, or some other female relative or friend of hers who would love to have a piece of her dress in some way? A seamstress can come up with many ideas for you, depending on the style of dress (i.e sequins/beading).
Best of luck with your decision.
Thanks for your comments.
Hugs,
Janie
I am so glad you choose the NICU charity. What they do is such a blessing to families who have lost infant children. You are a very kind man.
Blessings to you!
Funny thing.....in a 4a drawer file cabinet that I tried to give away and was going to sell but decided to keep I moved to different location was so hard I took out bottom drawer and found $$$$$$ my husband placed there...with it I was able to get both vehicles serviced very well, get a new energy efficient pellet stove, and some other things I was stressing on how to get fixed....he put the #$$$ in envelopes....
SO moral of story check everything carefully as you take out...I did so with my stuff and OUR stuff I no longer needed or wanted I have so much more organization area now..
I kept some very important things that will keep all the other memories there....BUT after 4 yrs I felt good about it