First I want to say how sorry I am for your loss. There are many triggers that cause us to lose our composure. It is okay to cry, in fact it's necessary. You were brave enough to go to the reunion and I am sure the person who spoke to you meant to be kind. You don't have to be embarrassed by breaking down . Believe me I did it often.
I want to welcome you to the group and I hope you find it a safe place to be understood. Hope to get to know you better. Sharon

It isn't easy at all. Brave for going though..I know what your saying about other people..my sister has never lost her husband but yet she tells me she knows how i feel..

Hello Mari, I am sorry that you had this experience.. All too often people do not know what to say and they say something that does not help you or them or anybody..... Don't give up on outside folks... venture back out at the right time... Be kind to yourself.... This is a long process..... and you can can only make it one step at a time........Blessing, Hope, and Peace to you tonight....and a hug... Mark

Realize that you knew the risk in going to the reunion but did it anyway for the benefit of your kids. Realize that you did your best. Realize that "being strong" is not the reality at the moment. Realize that your husband would have been proud of you for trying.

Hey Mari,
That was a strong thing to do on behalf of your kids. It was probably too soon but you gave it a try. Folks just don't know what to say and honestly there are no words. I have tried to go back in my past when meeting someone who had suffered a loss and you know I was just as awkward as people are now. I guess that's why its best to protect yourself from those type of situations until some time goes by and your strong enough. Most importantly is to not forget to take care of you. Do what you need to do for you. Even with kids you have to heal yourself for yourself but also to have something for your kids to draw from. I wouldn't worry about feeling embarrassed. Anyone who didn't understand you reaction isn't worth the time. It's easy to see you were still grieving and needed more time. Just take are of you.
Peace, Tim

Hi Mari Your loss is fresh and raw. Although friends and family mean well, they don't always say the right thing because they do not know what to say!! Crying is nothing to be embarrassed about. You should cry and let go. It will help in the healing process. We have to remember as members of the "widows/widowers club" that when people are in the presence of someone who has experienced loss, they are faced with their own mortality. They either don't know what to say or they blurt out the wrong thing. Be patient with yourself and others. Love and hugs Anna(lifegoeson)