THANK YOU!

I totally understand your sentiments!

MrsRWB. The one thing you don't have to be here is political correct,. You don't have to say what you think is right or even be encouraging. Here you can say what you feel, because most of us have felt like it too. We all have been sick and tired of pretending we are "just fine, doing well" or the other niceties people expect. Some of us try to hide the pain and others get angry and tell them "I feel like hell. How do you think you would feel if you buried your husband?"

It's okay to be tired of hurting, tired of being lonely and tired of getting up in the morning to do the same thing you did yesterday and do it alone. It's okay. I feel that way too. Sharon

Yes we all feel tired of pretending, of hurting and the painful struggle each day to make it through, to put a fake smile on our faces so others don't feel awkward, so they don't feel like we are going to cry if you bring up our loved ones, or they don't say anything at all, just give us that semi smile and keep walking. I too am tired from trying to go on like nothing has happened just for the sake of others and I will not do it anymore because that too is just exhausting. Why is it that we, the ones who have lost and hurt the most must make others feel better in our pain? Thank you for bringing this up, I feel a little better getting that off my chest!
Peace and Love to you all
Laurie

I'm tired too

I' m exhausted making other people feel better. If you have been with your spouse for many years, how can you get through grieving in a short time.

I understand what you are saying. I am tired too. Thankful I can come here and not feel so alone.

Thank you for saying what I'm feeling. I think I've been trying so hard pretending that I was thinking it was just me feeling so tired of it. Blessings to you

Another quote that may be appropriate here.

Hiding how you really feel and trying to make everyone happy doesn't make you nice, it just makes you a liar.
? Jenny O'Connell

Best Regards, Geo

I too am exhausted in trying to make others feel better.........thank you. Colleen

xoxo

Let it out. It feels good.

WOO-HOO!!!!!!. Never hide behind some sappy answer to questions worthless people ask. If you feel the urge to tell someone to go fly on their broom and F off, please do. You will feel so much better.

Maggie

Amen! Pretending gets really old. People really don't want to know how we feel. They don't know how to deal with us as what happened to us makes them uncomfortable.

I believe that the original poster hit a nerve with the first part of her statement - not wanting to pretend that everything is ok, when it is not.

However, that second part I don't understand what you are talking about. How do you get tired of being grateful.

There is no faking gratitude - its an emotion expressing appreciation for something one has or has had. Its internal. And it is an emotion that everyone should aspire to because there are studies that show a lot of positives if you can have this emotion.

You don't just say you are grateful, you have to actually have the appreciation in order to be grateful.

Bob