If you have to cry, go ahead and cry. Your Mom may be crying too. You cannot hold back your feelings for anyone else. So sorry for your loss. Barb

Let it out girl. Deepest condolences on your loss, Vern

I am so sorry that you have had another loss so soon.

Do what you need to do - I am sure others will understand. I attended the funeral of a friends husband within weeks of my husbands - and found it so hard and sure I cried and cried - but everyone understood - and in fact were even surprised that I had attended.

Hugs
Debbie

you cry girl you have that right so soon after your husbands funeral . gry all you want and cry for us.when my bosses wife pasted away about 5 months after my wife did it was hard for me .i did go ,i did not get close to the coffin and only stayed alittje while,good luck,cry when you want to .scott

Why would your Mom get mad at you?? She'll be crying too won't she? If you are worried that you'll really lose it or something, that I can understand. If that's the case, just make sure that wherever you sit is near an exit in case you feel you have to leave. If you're worried about what your Mom will say, then tell her in advance how you're feeling and that you'll try to stick it out but you might have to leave. I'm NOT saying that you should leave, just that in those kinds of situations it's often a good idea to have an exit strategy just in case.

The first year I avoided all funerals, weddings, wedding showers - anything that I knew I couldn't handle. I was up front with people and told them 'I just can't handle that right now' and they understood.

Do what YOU think is right and only as much as YOU think you can.

I'm sorry for your family's loss. Love and Hugs, Martha

First Hugs.

Sorry for your loss.

Exit strategy is a good idea. Holding your feelings in is not.

Hugs, Holly

I had a dream about my Uncle last night. My Aunt and he were together, they were hugging and laughing. He was so happy.
THe only thing you could see was like sky blue with brights lights on them. It made me feel so happy for him, he has missed my Aunt for two long yrs.

I wrote a poem about him for his funeral.

Re: My Mom she has been critical of how I grieve and she would be critical if I cried alot. I do not share my grief or anything about my feelings with her

So sorry about your uncle. I say cry all you want. Most people should understand and if they don't.....to bad for them.

I also have a mother that has been criticle of how I grieve, and she is a widow!! I love my mother, but she has been ZERO help since my husband was first diagnosed last June until he died in November, and is still absent in this process. I have learned to ignore her, I just behave as if nothing has happened when I am with her, or if I cannot and I am having a bad day, I cancel my plans with her. I am so done worrying about what anyone thinks any more.

You have every right to cry. You can't help how you feel. I know it's easier said then done but try not to worry about what other people think. I'm sorry to hear of another loss for you.

The first funeral I ever attended was for my best friend (killed when his bicycle flipped and he cracked his skull) when I was in fourth grade. That funeral, I cried for him. As time went on, and grandparents, other friends and family passed.......I think it is a natural progression, that all whom we've loved and lost, come to mind and bring tears when we attend a funeral. Cry for one, cry for all. They are missed and in my opinion, they are the treasures (the love we shared with them) that we store up in Heaven. I Just lost a friend this past Saturday (also the 2 year date of my Husband's passing) who committed suicide, which made an already difficult day, so much harder. He was a widower, who just could not step outside his grief. Just a note since I am on the subject......God does not wish that anyone commit suicide, and athough some religions have made it appear that suicide is unforgivable, there is only one unforgiveable sin and that is NOT suicide, but rather, Denying The Holy Spirit.

Something weird happened to me at the first funeral I attended since Mike's. I couldn't cry because it wasn't Mike. I anticipated lots of tears and it never happened. Maybe it was a defense mechanism. I don't know.

I've never been to a funeral where crying wasn't common. What were tears made for, anyway? Be true to yourself and don't try to make yourself like anyone else. Your uncle, looking down on you from heaven would feel honored to see your tears. I pray for your strength through the funeral and don't worry about what anyone thinks about you. There's only one person whose opinion of you counts, and you know who that is.