Ana, I'm so sorry. You'll find that the more you fight those feelings the worse the reaction to them is.

Your overwhelming sadness is part of the grieving process and it wants to be heard. It's like a very needy child that keeps pulling and tugging on your skirt to be picked up, held, loved, soothed and most importantly, acknowledged.

We have all been there at one time or another during our grieving process, and don't kid yourself, the more you shove those feelings inside, the more they will poke and prod at you!

It's really best if you stop whatever you're doing, and address whatever is occurring at the time. If you need to cry, DO IT! Let it rip [as the kids say!]

Sometimes those tears that well-up inside us and come bursting out all at once are the most cleansing. They allow the sun to shine and a rainbow to appear.

Remember: After every rain there will be a rainbow! You just have to look for it!

We're all here with you and we've all suffered the loss of our love. You are so not alone!

Roz

Ana I am so sorry for your loss. No one right now is more important than you, as roz says if you feel like crying cry, if you feel like screaming scream. All the emotions you are feeling or will feel are all normal, accept them, as they are all part of the grieving journey. Sending warm thoughts and hugs. Katrina

Ana, so sorry that you are experiencing what I did a little over a year ago. It is still very hard & the emotions are unpredictable..

"Death changes everything.
Time changes nothing.
I still miss the sound of your voice
The wisdom of your advice
The stores of your life
And just being in your presence
So, No time changes nothing
I miss you as much today as the day you died
I just Miss You."

AnaCarolina, at one month my shock and fog were still overwhelmingly in control over my emotions.
The more you try to contain or suppress your grief, the more likely it is to overwhelm you by surprise.
I just past 7 months and it seems like reality is still sinking in .
My husband's absence is only becoming more real as the months go by.

I am so sorry for your loss.

The third and fourth weeks were the worst for me. The shock and numbness had left I was faced with the truth that my husband wasn't coming home. The pain was horrible and I didn't think I could survive. During one of my lowest points, I received a call my yoga instructor; she shared her story with me of losing her first husband. It was at that moment that I understood that I would get through all of this. That it wouldn't be easy, but I would survive. We talked for a long time at the end of the conversation she told me to be good to myself, get plenty of rest, cry as much as I needed, exercise and eat. All of which sounded so simple, but at that stage it wasn't. I started to follow her advice and I was amazed of how much it helped. I think as women we are raised to nurture others, but not always ourselves. I started doing just that, putting my needs first and I still am. I'm at just about at three months I still miss Dave so much and cry everyday. There is no easy or quick way for any of us to move through this but remember to take care of yourself. Hugs, Jo

Im so sorry, that your feeling this way. Your mind, body and soul, are all hurting. Just give yourself as much time as possible. Cry when you feel it is boiling up, and just know we are all here for you. I still have trouble remember the first three months after my husband passed away. I still want to turn back the clock. Big hugs carla