Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
This is the first Easter in 18 years that I have not made a basket for Brian. He was just like a little kid, he liked his basket just as full a Matthew's, and it would be! I love making up there baskets with treats and toys. I hate that Brian isnt here to share our lives with us, its so unfair. But tonight as I sit here wishing he were here the light in the room has brightend twice (it is on a dimmer switch)...so I wonder is this Brian trying to tell me he is here. But then I wonder is this me over thinking things...which is very like me. But for tonight Im going with hes here because somehow that makes me feel a little closer to him. I just wish I could hold his hand...This life is hard, but somehow I will get through it for Matthew...one day at a time...anyhow I wish you all a Blessed Easter and i hope that each of you have someone special to spend the day with,,,Hugs...
Thanksgiving last year, I had the family here and watched a movie with them. It was the first without Greg. It was a hard day, and I was getting through it all for him, and for the kids and grandkids. Made all the food like normal, and cried all the way through it that morning. Put on a happy face and takked to the kids about life, etc. Sat down in Greg's chair for the first time ever, and as it was a comedy movie, a funny part came on and I alughed LOUD AND LONG. at that moment, the lamp over my head dimmed and brightened, and then did it again as if I didn't see it the first time. My son was sitting next to me, and said to me'did you see that?" YEP I DID. It had never done that befiore, and has never done it again.
YEP my friend I BELIEVE he was saying he's there, hes' with you, and will be seeing that basket for Matthew and will be enjoying every bit of it as he did when he was here.
It's not a hand, but its there all the same.
EASTER HUGS to the both of you tomorrow, and hopes for a smile and some peace for both of you in the day. Diane
Easter Blessings to you,
Sal
MJ
Hugs to you both, Nicola xx