Hi,

I think Dragonstar offered good advice about bringing some support with you.

Rics parents are out of the country, but my dad is coming with me. Am annoyed at his younger siblings as neither want to go, because they don't want to hear it, but to me we should face it altogether x

I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this. It is enough that you have to come to terms with losing your partener, and experiencing that pain, but to have to also go through the deatails in an inquest?

I have no words of wisdom to give, but I will be thinking of you, and hoping that some peace will find it's way to you.

I truly hope that you are not alone for it. But please remember that you have us, and we care.

HUGS Diane

You are in my prayers as you face the inquest next week. I will be lifting you up to the throne of grace every day and asking God to honor His word from Psalm 35 for you. As I read what you have written, Psalm 35 came to mind.
vs.1 Plead my cause , O LORD, with them that strive with me: fight against them that fight against me.
vs.2 Take hold of shield and buckler and stand up for mine help.
vs.3 Draw out also the spear, and stop the way against them that persecute me: say unto my soul, I am thy salvation.
vs.4 Let them be confounded and put to shame that seek after my soul: let them be turned back and brought to confusion that devise my hurt.
vs. 5 Let them be as chaff before the wind: and let the angel of the LORD chase them.
vs. 6 Let their way be dark and slippery: and let the angel of the LORD persecute them.
vs. 7 For with out cause have they hid for me their net in a pit which without cause they have digged for my soul.
vs. 8 Let destruction come upon him at unawares; and let his net that he hath hid catch himself; into that very destruction let him fall.
vs. 9 And my soul shall be joyful in the LORD: it shall rejoice in his salvation.
vs. 10 All my bones shall shall say, LORD, who is like unto thee, which, deliverest the poor from him that is too strong for him, yea the poor and the needy from him that spoileth him?

There are 28 verse to this Psalm, I don't want to make a journal entry out of a reply. If you like you can read the rest of the Psalm for yourself. It is in the King James Version of the Bible that these verses are taken from.

I hope you do not think that I am preaching, I just wanted you to know that I care even though I do not know you. It is hard to loose the one you love and then to have allegations that you were involved in his death is unbelievable.

Hugs and Prayers,
recent widow


I will be praying and asking God to give you the strength you need to go through this horrible ordeal.

God Bless You Nicola37

Just walk in there, look up and say God I leave this in your hands and during the hearing I am going to give you some words my cousin gave me when I had to go to court on his will with his sons

God put on hand on my shoulder for comfort and one hand on my mouth to keep me quiet when I wanna say well I can not repeat...
I wish you well

I had to go to court and face my sons killer - over and over again for 19mo. so I know what you might face. I to had to testify. The PA went over evrything with me, 8hrs worth. Whatever you do, dont change one word of what you say! Listen super close, and dont say Anything before you think the response and how it will sound in your head. you cant take back words that are said. ont mean to make you more nervous then you already are, but it wont be easy. Best of luck to you - message me if you need more specific advice, believe me I have heard it all. check out my journal if you want, I think some of the court stuff is there. Just think that this is the last, and most important thing you can do for him G-

Thank you so much to you all, your prayers and words of encouragement and strength helped me get through yesterday. I took a photo of Ric and Thom to help keep me focused and a teddy they had both bought for me on Mothers Day. The two people who had made allegations that I was involved in his death had to be summonsed to court as they refused to go, which in itself speaks volumes about the lies they had made. I had written to the coroner before the case with all the lies that they had written in the statements and the way they were trying to portray my Ric; he omitted all of these from the hearing. Their claims and "opinions" of any 3rd party involvement were again thrown out due to the true facts of professionals saying this was impossible of anyone else being involved. They were disrespectful in court they had to be told to be quiet, and their behaviour is being reported back to the company that I work for. I took your advice Cheerry G and thought about every answer I gave, even though I was not on trial. I felt on a high when I came out, that I'd achieved victory although this inquest was to determine the outcome of Rics death. By late last night however, my high has turned to anger, real black anger - I'm angry I ever had to go through that, losing Ric was bad enough, my son was feeling angry screwing things up and breaking his toys ( he knows nothing about this, he is angry cos his daddy is gone), so because I was angry I just let him get on with it, I'm angry at the company we work for for allowing these two employees to spread such gossip and lies ( I am actually their manager), we had to move away because of it, I can't work there, and our son had to move schools.
My next fight now is my grievance appeal with the company I work for, regarding these matters and how I've been treated. I've got professional representation, and if I can deal with an inquest I can deal with anything. I knew and I know that at the end of all of this I still won't get my Ric back and ultimately like any of us, that is what I would wish for, but it is my duty to fight for him, me and Thom, and if he were here now he would do the same too. Thank you all so much again, you allow me to express how I truly feel xxxx
I love you so much Ric and your memory will never be extinguished from our lives xxxxxx