I am at 28 months and I still feel tired. The first year I think I ran on adrenaline, but I was still very tired. Just getting out of bed was an effort that first year. I attribute my tiredness to some of my health problems and the fact that I was his caregiver for a decade before he passed. Come to find out my family was really worried about my health during the time that he was so sick. So I feel I'm still catching up if that makes sense.

Of course, I'm also an anxiety sleeper. Some people sleep less when anxious, but I sleep more when I'm anxious or worried about things. I guess that is a good thing.

So, I think you're reacting normally especially at four months.

Nessie from KY

Yes, I am going through the feeling of being tired most of the time. I do keep myself busy as much as I can. I also recently started taking vitamins again after many weeks of neglecting myself.

I am not sure why I feel so tired, but I also know my sleep is not the best. I can be in bed for 8 hours, but actually only sleep for 5 of those hours in bed. I need to focus my attention elsewhere when I first get in bed, so I watch video's on the internet, I fall asleep, then I wake up often during the night. Then when I do get up in the morning I don't feel like getting up, no motivation, but I do get up.

Grieving is exhausting. The emotional rollercoaster is like working 16 hour days. And it's relentless. That's why we talk so much about 'baby steps' because it often feels like we are losing ground. We are making progress, it just doesn't feel that way sometimes.

Actually I needed this topic today. I needed to remind myself that my mental sadness is temporary and tomorrow is full of new hope. Sharon

Sharon said it well. The beginning of your loss, the emotional strain can bring every physical thing in your body down. Your brain on overdrive makes whatever you first do make your body feel every step you take. At least that's how I felt.

And at times doing outdoor stuff - when I am feeling my loss and loneliness without him I have to slow myself down. I have often said there were times when my body even though I had done nothing was telling me to rest. I finally got it - those days I would get myself my comforter, my cocoa at times my Pina Colda or??? sit on my couch, cuddle with my dogs, tv or book and just sit. And the next day I felt better.

SO as was said here you are very normal. But take care to take that needed rest. Hugs

Yes, I'm just now not feeling as tired or I should say not so worn out ...

Hell, yes. I would think, what is WRONG with me?? Grief is exhausting and stressful (ya think?). I work a lot, and when I came home, I also coasted a lot; I would (and still do) take it easy on myself, and I'm at almost 5 years. And if that means hanging out on my recliner and watching four hours straight of The Walking Dead, so be it. The earth is still turning. And you know what? All those hours of sitting, thinking, tearing up, staring at the ceiling - they mean something. They mean a lot.

Yes, grieving is tiring. I am at almost 2 yrs and still tired. It will take it out of you.

Yes, I'm just so tired. It takes everything I have to go to work and take care of what I have to.

After I've had a good cry or sleep filled with dreams I'm just exhausted.

Grieving is the hardest work I have ever had to go through and the worst thing about grief....it actually does not kill you. Most of us are not strangers to hard work and hard times but this heartbreaking journey we are on is unbelievable... and the difference now is that we have to do it "alone"...There are no comforting hugs and encouraging words whispered in our ear telling us we can do it.

I aways knew I could do anything because I had my husbands love and support to get me through it.....now.....I'm alone, empty and tired beyond belief because he gone and nothing is right with the world.

I'm sorry for my dark words and mood...it's one of those days.
Sending gentle hugs and prayers for all of us as we work on our journey.
Blessings,
Sharon

As others have said this is exhausting. I am still young so I have to work, have family and friends and outside interest but nights are when it hits.

Yes.... I am 1 day less than you. I often wonder if I will ever regain my strenght. I know so many people that never did. The toll of caregiving, running back and forth at hospital taking care of everything. Then with our age, and health issues.......sigh.....

Along with the emotional exhaustion, comes the physical exhaustion of having to "be" two people instead of one. At the time when we really have to "fight" to give a damn about life itself because we have to do it alone...there's no one there to help us do it. That's what it was like at the worst part of grief for me. I had to "force" myself to live a lot and to not just exist. Yeah...grief is the hardest work out your body and soul ever goes through. Understanding that it is normal and not getting down on ourselves is what I mean when I say please be kind to yourself...

That and when people are grieving they "forget" to eat healthy, to exercise, (it's hard to rest when your heart is broken), so yeah..to rest, and all around take care of ourselves. Stress also causes more health problems than anything else and stress levels are at an all time high. So physically, emotionally, mentally..grieving is so so hard on our bodies.

Yeah, (when we lose the love of our life), tired is an understatement...
hugs...
-Diana

Yes lost my husband in April 2013. I do not feel like getting out of bed most days. I am dead tired during the day and very angry when I have to go out. The only reason why I get out of bed is so I can let my dogs out in the morning. I also end up with a bad headache at night. I have to sleep with the tv on because it helps me sleep. Some days I do cry and some days I just hold it in til I go to bed then I cry there some nights.

Thank you for your input. I probably will have to give myself a bit of slack instead of driving myself too hard.

This site helps me so much.

There is no question the grieving process is absolutely exhausting.
I am at 5 months and only now in the last week or 2 do I have the energy to embark on more than the most basic tasks. For months I slept and did what I needed to do. Nothing more and nothing less.
I have often been told be gentle on yourself. When I need to sleep I sleep regardless of the time. Needless to say when a wave of grief overpowers you it is particularly tiring. Continue to nuture yourself on
this difficult journey. Gerald