My DH has been gone 15 months, and even though I don't cry every day, I still do cry. Why? Because I love him with all my heart. I don't perform an evaluation at the end of the day as to whether I cried or not. If I do, it's OK, and if I don't, again it's OK.

It usually doesn't take much to bring a tear.

Blessings, Debbie

My husband of 32 years has been gone 2 years. I don't cry everyday, but sometimes something will be said or happen to remind me of him and I cry because I cannot share it with him.

I lost Mark 3 months ago today and I cry, maybe not everyday but most days. But I also laugh at something that he did or would have done, or said or would have said. I smile at a memory and sometimes I even smile through the tears. I love him and miss him with all my heart - that will always be there for me. I agree with Debbie - if I do shed some tears, then it's okay, but if I don't that's okay too.
Wishing you peace,
Chris

My Mother cries at the drop of a hat and then there was my Dad, whom I hardly ever did see shed a tear. We're all different in how we cope with our sadness but I think if we could save all the tears that have been shed by the people on this site, we would be able fill an ocean.

Today is 29 weeks since Rob had to leave me. Never a days goes by that I dont' either cry or moan in anguish at his absence. I don't sob as often but the anguish is my shadow. There are days that I can enjoy family or friends, a movie, my pets. These are good days but they start with waking up with the sharp knowing and end with the hallow feeling of missing my man. Triggers are everywhere and sometimes the tears just roll down my cheeks without warning. I make a conscious effort not to cry with most friends and family. They just don't seem to know that 6 1/2 months of forever is not very long. It's Ok to cry, Hug, Donna

My wife lost her battle to cancer nine months ago Monday and it was Monday, November 9, 2009 I felt like my life ended also. For the most part I feel like I cry every day it's hard to remember because most of the time it comes in bursts and then followed by sadness. The only happiness I can remember is when she was here, I don't remember any happy moments from the past ten months(she was diagnosed at the end of September). It's hard to remember anything as her memories overshadow any current grief memories and everything else for that matter.

I hope you find some peace and happiness in the good memories you had with your husband and let the memories of grief fade away.

Hugs,
Ron

I cry every day. At first I tried to stop the tears. Now I just don't care. I've decided to roll with being the crazy crying woman and be done with it.

Well that wasn't very supportive, was it? Ha! I just mean I've come to the conclusion that the tears are suppose to be there, and to feel bad about the crying really is counterproductive. You feel sad and your body needs the release. If others can't grasp that, well then, that's their problem.

Thanks to everyone for your input I think that maybe I am worried that if I don't cry I feel guilty about it. Past couple of days have been tougher then normal but I guess thats the grief cycle up and down.
Again Thank you

Three years for me and I don't cry every day any more but I cry often. I cry because I miss him, I cry when I tell a funny story about him(there were so many) sometimes I cry for no reason. It is okay to cry we lost someone special and it is okay not to cry that just means we are honoring them by having a better day. Everything we do is okay! Hugs!!!

I guess I cry everyday, because when I pray to God, I ask Him to take care of Tom and the tears come. I can't pray without crying. It is a healthy release of emotions, and I can't help it. I hope you have a good day, and I hope that it gets easier for you. Hugs~Shelley

There's nothing wrong with crying Donale. I think it's a great emotional release. My husband has been gone since January and alto I think about him everyday, I don't cry like I use to. And then I feel guilty about that. There are a lot of times when I'm just not sure what it is I'm feeling. I'm just kinda numb. I hope you're feeling better Donale! Hugs

It's been 2 1/2 yrs for me. No, I don't cry everyday anymore. I do cry much easier than I ever have in my whole life. Never been much of a cryer, unless something really touched me, not until Joe died. For quite sometime, I'm sure I did cry everyday, many times more than once, or just all day. Now, I do tear up thinking about many things about Joe, but, now I can think of him more w/o crying. Many times I smile about something he did, now.
As some others said, its okay if you don't cry or if you do. Everyone is different, and everyday is different. Hope you have some better days coming. Hugs, Joely

We all are so different and it is normal to do whatever we feel at any given moment. For some that will be to cry every day for years, for others it will not. Our feelings are healthy. Guilt over our feelings is not, but that too is so normal. I cried oceans, then rivers, then streams, then puddles over the past 16 months. I still cry sometimes, I do not keep track of when. I just cry when I feel like crying and wash away the tears after and move forward.

My husband rarely cried after losing his best friend, his brother in law, his father, his mother...even though I have never met a person who loved more deeply in my life. He literally lived his life to serve mankind and bent over backwards to do everything that he could for everyone. I think that he would have cried a LOT if he had lost me, but even then, not as much as I have cried. He told me that he would not have been able to handle it if it was the other way around and he lost me.

Watching him deal with grief, I learned that no two people grieve the same, and that tears are not the only indication of how much a person loved.

The most important thing is that we all honor all of our feelings and emotions and do not feel guilt over what we do or do not do as we keep putting one foot in front of the other.

There is no "easy" way to live through this and we all have to find our way to live through our loss..

hugs..
-Diana