Yes, there are always little reminders that we are now on our own. Hugs to you from AZ. You can make it.....one little baby step at a time.

Kimmy, this is just the beginning. I can't believe how much Morey did and what a difference it is to be just ONE person, depending my myself.

You, me and everyone else who's on this journey will have to figure it all out. I'm getting better with the food shopping and cooking for myself. I'm not so wasteful and I've learned that if I don't pay the utility, mortgage, taxes and insurance.....NOBODY ELSE WILL!

The bills slowly removed his name as I informed them.....but, actually seeing his name gone is quite an eye opener and heart wrencher.

Roz

Kimmy,

I understand - I was shocked that after reporting my wifes passing, I lost the married discount on my car and home insurance, and I can't claim married or head of household on my income taxes anymore.

I don't get it - I am widowed not by choice but by circumstance, I have so much grief to deal with - and all of these other things just keep getting added on top of them.

I tried to pay her dr bills and other accounts that she had. I was not on them so they refused to give me any information, like how much was owed. I can't pay if I don't know how much.

I ran my credit report last week, and they are all on my credit report as unpaid. What you won't tell me how much to pay, but you will ruin my credit - Thanks.

She was also on Medicare - they are of no assitance either, I can't get any info from them - I am not her -

I did offer to have a seaunce (sp) so we could all be there and communicate with her from the other side, so she could authorize me for them - not sure why but they were offended by that.

My only saving grace was her bank account, she had me listed as the beneficiary - I didn't even know you could do that. I was able to access her account and close it - probably the only thing that got me through the first month or two and all the cost of the services.

I made sure to add beneficiaries to all of my accounts, so my kids don't have to go through all of this - I have been shocked at our un feeling people are, I only hope and pray, they are never in this situation, becuase it is terrible.

yeah, I am barely past the 2 month mark. have to change my health insurance policy because no way I can afford my monthly premiums. my financial 'helpers' advised me to get on state aid. What I've seen of adults on that, they get lousy treatment (children are treated very well).
These adaptations are very hard when we are already down. It is a painful collision with reality.

yup, cdmeraon love the seanance come-back - think I will borrow it. It is ridiculous. Unfortunately Kimmey I think we all find things we never did. As ridiculous as it sounds, I had to have a friend come with me to buy wiper blades. My husband was a mechanic, it was too painful to buy them myself. I did it though, you would have thought I climbed a mountain.

maryelnew, for a number of days, I didn't trust myself to even drive by myself. Fortunately my daughter was willing to come along. But yes, the insurance thing, and all that. Holy cow.