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Truhal 08/11/2015

My dad had to go to the ER today and they decided to keep him. He was so week and had blood coming from somewhere. they are running test. This is the first time in his life that he has been in the hospital overnight. He's asking to go home to be with the Lord. I'm so scared. We've had our battles but I've always loved him.

Just feeling so alone and asking for prayers, My husband is gone and I just dont know what to do.

I have my dad's dog and my dog too which isn't helping. the dogs don't get alone. I don't know how to handle that. My dad's dog howled when he saw me get out of the car by myself. Poor thing cried. I cried. Reminds me of when i lost my husband and my dog kept looking for him. I feel like I'm back there again.

lonely60 08/12/2015

Now is the time to stay close to your dad and let him know how much you love him and resolve any unresolved issues between you. Hopefully his concern will not become a reality. should it be his time to go home to the Lord I hope it is a peaceful passing for both you and him. when I lost Jeanne she knew when we went to the hospital that she would not be coming home. she accepted her upcoming death and also helped me accept it. She died peacefully and that has brought be tremendous comfort since she has been gone. God Bless

staygolden3 08/12/2015

Prayers coming your way! Deal with one step at a time. Esp just be there for ur Dad. Your hubby is still with you for support. Keep calm and breathe. Tomorrow and the next day will come and go no matter what. You can do this. You're stronger than you know.
Love to you
Darcie

hiskim 08/12/2015

I'm so sorry about your dad's illness, and that it has triggered the memories of losing your husband. I'll pray for you, and keep you in my thoughts. Hugs and love, Kim

Coop84 08/12/2015

I sure hope that it is not something serious and will keep you and your father in my prayers. I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending positive thoughts and hugs!! Sue

shaneslove 08/12/2015

Hugs to you... You and your dad are in my thoughts

Rainbow27 08/12/2015

many healing prayers for your dad. Just take it all a day at a time. I think your husband walking by your side in this one... Much peace to you.

matoacalady 08/12/2015

Praying for both of you.....

Hugs
Jen

bookdragon 08/12/2015

So sorry to hear of your dads illness. All you can do is be there for him. Hugs-Patti

loveddogs 08/12/2015

Hoping for the best with your dad! Hugs, Michele

dschwartz 08/12/2015

My thoughts and prayers for strength to see you through this difficult time in life. Remember to take care of you in the process of helping your dad, along with the doggie drama. It's all so very overwhelming, I know. Hang in there . . we're here. Hugs, D

lmj90 08/12/2015

Prayers to you and your family. focus on one thing at a time and take each thing as it comes. Im sure your dad is scared so try to reassure him that you are there and you will do everything you can to make sure he gets proper care and you love him. As our parents age they tend to be more like our children (needing us to take a leading roll when they are scared and weak) You leaned on them now its time they lean on you. You can do this.

cliffskat 08/12/2015

Tru, will keep you in my prayers. You've had such a long rough road with him as it is, and now this! Can you call your step-daughter to help with the dog situation? I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

Love, Hugs, and Prayers,
Martha

Nicker07 08/12/2015

Prayers to you and your handling of the situation.

I remember what you told us of your past with your father, now maybe his reaction to how you are caring for him will change things even better for you both. And I hope you can help yourself with your reactions with what is going on. You are stronger than you think, and you just need reassuring of that....stay in this moment not the past it is different. I know that is hard to do.

The dogs you may need someone else to monitor or keep one of them for now. You do not need to feel the stress of them as they also react to that stress.

HUGS HUGS HUGS coming

deleted_user 08/12/2015

Tru, I'm so sorry that you're going through this now. You need help with the dog situation, they definitely will pick up on your feelings.

One day at a time my dear. Stay strong, think of yourself, be kind to you through this.

Warmly,
Roz

Truhal 08/12/2015

Thanks for praying for me and my dad. He's going up for test tomorrow.

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