I saw that today, I just don't think I can change the channel right now.

I have been trying to change the channel but it keeps going back to the same station.

I have been trying to change the channel...and it helps to change it to the thoughts of love....the strength of our love, what we did in happiness, our joking around....such a private honour to have shared with him....these are the channels I try to change in to....
I have never been so sad in my whole life....our 15 years were very, very short to me....not enough time!!!!
But I think of how we really were sensitive to eachother...his beautiful smiley face at times...when he would be happy, I would be happy...this is the channel I try to switch too. I also figure, as in life...we had such a great connection when thinking of eachother....so I say if I am thinking of you and feeling that feeling he must be somewhere still feeling that 'connect' feeling with me...sometimes I see a little sign, right after I acknowledge that...that if I am thinking of him intensely in a moment then he too is still out there trying to connect with me too. It has got to be....love is so forceful an energy, it cannot be left just hanging all of a sudden or disappear because one has to pass....:)

I think in the beginning we try HARD to turn that channel but it's just stuck. Not even a wrench can loosen it.

But we do START to be able to adjust it a little more and little more.

I am going to save this book suggestion! The title alone is a great one!

All my life i try to TRUST THE GUT!

Greg had said that to me after meeting me also. Said he trusted his gut. Was not wrong then...for either of us!1

HUGS and hope the book is great! Diane

As you said in the beginning this won't work for grieving--- we can't hardly change our clothes, let a lone a channel :-) But as we venture forth and start to heal, it is good to change the channel when we start to think of all the things that are wrong----and tune in to a channel that looks at our blessing and thankfulness. I KNOW it's not easy, it's very hard and sometimes the first channel likes to magically turn back on. If it doesn't work right now, save the idea for later when it might. It's step by step, some things work better later on------
Thanks for sharing this with us.
Hugs, Sal

I love daisies - that was what my bridal bouquet was made of. Also, my Lenox china has a chain of daisies around the edge.

I think doing ANYTHING that is pleasant, such as planting flowers, will improve our moods and attitudes. Even doing it when we don't FEEL like doing it can change us (against our wills!).

It's like taking a shower. I hate the thought of having to get in the shower daily, but once I'm in there, I don't want to get out! How can a person's thoughts be SO exact opposites within minutes??? We just have to make ourselves do things we don't feel inclined to do, just because we SHOULD be doing those things. And all of a sudden, we may feel GOOD about it, surprise, surprise!

Never mind change the channel, how do I SHUT this thing off already?

Whenever I lie awake at night fretting over stuff and running the same thing over and over in my mind - that hamster in a wheel kind of thinking - I ask myself if there is anything I can actually do about it at that moment. 99 times out of 100 the answer is 'no - it's 2:00 a.m. - I can't do anything about it now.' So I tell myself that instead I will sleep for now and then deal with it tomorrow. I can usually sleep then.

I know that's kind of like Scarlett O'Hara thinking - 'I can't think about that right now, I will think about that tomorrow' - but it actually does help.

Sometimes you have to make yourself get distracted and shift gears. It's not easy...

Love and Hugs,
Martha