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I came home and turned on the living room light, and the bulb blew. It's a ceiling fan, so I just figured, it could wait, and opened the curtain.
I noticed later, that my coffee pot's clock wasn't on, and it was the outlet. I figured, now what, I'll have to get someone to look at that. I decided to go and pick up some things at Wal Mart.
That's when I found out, I must have tripped the breaker. My refrigerator wasn't working. That's why the coffee pot didn't work.
The thing is, I never have gone in the back yard, after dark, without someone else being with me. My husband died in the back yard. I cut the grass and go back there in the daylight, but just have a problem, I guess a fear to go there. I had my son put up a motion light when he was here for Thanksgiving. I'm so glad I did. I got the dogs to go with me, and I went and flipped the breaker.
I guess this was a milestone, it sure felt like one. I feel like such a wuss.. being afraid of my own back yard. I hope this helps the fear some.
I noticed later, that my coffee pot's clock wasn't on, and it was the outlet. I figured, now what, I'll have to get someone to look at that. I decided to go and pick up some things at Wal Mart.
That's when I found out, I must have tripped the breaker. My refrigerator wasn't working. That's why the coffee pot didn't work.
The thing is, I never have gone in the back yard, after dark, without someone else being with me. My husband died in the back yard. I cut the grass and go back there in the daylight, but just have a problem, I guess a fear to go there. I had my son put up a motion light when he was here for Thanksgiving. I'm so glad I did. I got the dogs to go with me, and I went and flipped the breaker.
I guess this was a milestone, it sure felt like one. I feel like such a wuss.. being afraid of my own back yard. I hope this helps the fear some.
Big bear hugs
Ralph
I agree with you, the only way to conquer it, is to face it. I am doing that in baby steps and you did that in a Huge Jump by going out there in the dark.
Congratulations! You now know the backyard is your backyard again.
Hugs,
Judy
Now Daisy the Wonder Dog is my only protection - she would lick invaders to death (????). If you EVER want to ''borrow'' her - feel free, (in exchange for one of your cakes - ok?). xoxox Vicki
Getting used to not having their presence here IS the fear of doing anything for so many of us!
A BIG WOO HOO when we can overcome it, and git er done!!!!! :-)
HUGS AND CONGRATS!! this was huge!!! Diane
Linda
Carla
I have still not been able to go to church since his funeral mass! Its not that I am angry at God or anything like that , I am just afraid that when I walk in all I will think of is his casket being wheeled in and out and will burst in to uncontrollable tears and I don't want to draw attention to myself in that way! I hoep it passes , I guess eventually it will.
Reading your post you said something that has been my thought exactly since my husband died. Losing him was the worst possible thing to happen and after that what could possibly scare me???? Not even death as then I would be with him again.
Reading your post you said something that has been my thought exactly since my husband died. Losing him was the worst possible thing to happen and after that what could possibly scare me???? Not even death as then I would be with him again.