What would be so bad about taking a day off as long as it doesn't become a habit?

I agree with Gatormom. Maybe binge watching The Gilmore Girls and reading in bed is a good idea! No, you certainly don't want to make a habit of it, but one day might help you. We all need a break once in awhile.

My husband has been gone 4 weeks today. I had one of those days yesterday. I would guess that I'm going to keep having those days every now and then. I understand it may not be healthy to have those days all of the time, but I'm going to allow myself to have them once in a while. I think the fact that you even posted about it is good for you too.

Don't be so hard on yourself. When you go through this type of loss reality sets in at different stages and in different timeframes. The bad days are just there...we can o my do what we can. Once you do one thing you will just-slowly so another and taking a shower will fall i to place. Tears do help us! God be with you and us all@

Yes, vegp loading the dishwasher and doing the laundry ARE major accomplishments for the newly grieving. So bravo, and forget about the shower- do things as you're ready. Part of mourning especially in Jewish culture is going unkempt...I mean ignoring grooming. I've been doing only what I have to do, and doing my taxes was as excruciating as I thought it would be...Hope you can with time feel some peace or even joy in still being alive throughout parts of your day, knowing your husband would want that for you.

Do what you need to get through each moment and don't worry about what that is. Getting through the moments are hard enough. I am sorry that you have to go through this and sorry for your pain. Hugs and prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss and pain. You almost have described me to a tee! My husband will be gone 4 months next week. Although I was fortunate enough to stay at my Mothers for 2 weeks after he passed, it was difficult to come home and be alone. But I made myself set up a routine. Made myself get up and make my bed, and get dressed even if it was just sweats. In the evenings, which was the hardest for me, I would make myself a cup of tea,bring it to my room and crawl into bed and binge watch the Gilmore girls from start to finish. Then a friend of mine gave me a few books to read. That really helps. It's very difficult to sleep when your brain is chattering throughout the night. Thinking of all the things that need to get done. Income tax was a nightmare. But day by day it got a little bit easier. All the folders of things that needed to be done started to get smaller and as it got smaller I felt a little bit better. I still allowed myself to have a pajama day. In fact, my husband and I occasionally would have pajama days. This is so fresh for you but as each day goes by You will be blessed to wake up to see the morning sunrise. Be patient with yourself and take care of yourself. It's all about you right now. I am here to listen and share. Prayers and hugs to you.

There's no timeframe. Grieving takes its own time. It has been months for me and I still have days where doing even the smallest task is too much. For me, just walking through the grocery store would bring me to tears (we used to go together). Now, months later, I can go to the store without breaking down. Sometimes even the smallest things trigger memories and emotions that can make you dread each successive day. Remember that things will happen when they do. Do what you can, when you can. Eventually, one moment at a time, the grief will lessen. It may seem endless and hopeless now, but you truly will be ok. Please take care of yourself, and know that you are not alone.

This post might help you. Sometimes we need a break as all the events leading to now drains a lot of energy... This is by far the most painful experience in life.

https://www.dailystrength.org/journals/stay-in-and-cry

Hello,what you are going thru mirrors mine.i lost my everthing on march 20th and everyday is a struggle.i know there are days when i feel like driving my car over a cliff and end this overwhelming pain,but i am still here breathing and going to the motion of living.i was told that it will get easier i just wish its now.

Veg....Your at 3 weeks. I'm at 10 months. Want to hear my weekend. Saturday morn. Got up about 7 finished the laundry I started the night before. Ran the dishwasher. Yep I did those both too. Took a shower and made 3 stops for supplies I needed for the house. Stopped at a local pub had a few beers. Than went home and put supplies away. That was my Saturday. Thought I at least got something accomplished.


Sunday morning I planed on making myself breakfast. Vacum the house. Cut the grass do some yard work. Know what I ended up doing? I didn't even make myself coffee. I got up about 7. And sat my lazy ass in lazy boy all day. Why cus that's what I felt like doing. We all have and need days like those. Please do not be so hard on yourself. We all do what we need to do when we need to do it.
That's how we find some kind of peace during this journey we are all one.