Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
In widow land..... It's a world, not just a state. It's more than just missing our spouses,
It's loss of comfort.
It's sleeping in a bed, alone.
Nobody to bounce that idea off of.
Nobody to tell you wonderful things about you.
Nobody else to clean up cat vomit.
No arms around you.
No breathing to listen to while you fall asleep.
The reason we feel crazy, is because the whole world changed with one last breath.....
We are embarking on a whole new world. Different scents, sights, experiences and friends. We feel raw because its all new, all different.
It's loss of comfort.
It's sleeping in a bed, alone.
Nobody to bounce that idea off of.
Nobody to tell you wonderful things about you.
Nobody else to clean up cat vomit.
No arms around you.
No breathing to listen to while you fall asleep.
The reason we feel crazy, is because the whole world changed with one last breath.....
We are embarking on a whole new world. Different scents, sights, experiences and friends. We feel raw because its all new, all different.
After 43 yesrs:
No hand to hold
No one to say good morning to
Talk to a book about
Give opinion on clothes Etc
No one to eat with
No one to smile at
No eyes to look into
No kisses...
Big adjustment
No one to kiss you
No one to comfort you
No one to laugh with
No one to pick you up at night from Tube station
No one waiting at home for you
No one to cook for
No one to discuss odd things and everything with
No one to hold your hand
No arm to hold on to
No one to cherish you
The list could go on and on, from small things to major things. No one here.
I think we all miss the closeness and safety that we had.
It's only been almost 3 months and I hate it. I'm so glad my son is here for me and my pets. They keep me busy, 3 dogs and 3 cats.
We didn't go out and socialize but now I'm reaching out to other people. I also have some people who are reaching out to help me. I will get past this, but I can't see me living with another man. I miss his snoring, I miss his sense of humor, I miss him ranting at the TV, I just miss him.
Happy Hump Day everybody!
"I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I'm with you".
Kind of says it all for me.
I keep thinking back to my single days (got married at 39). I was so lonely most of the time and looking for my love. I was so depressed because I didn't feel loved.
Now I'm lonely because I miss my love, I just keep reminding myself I was loved and am loved and still love him.
WOW.....So True....Now, we just have to find out who we are without them....