Widows & Widowers Support Group
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I have always been a misfit. And now more than ever. Not only I have no brothers or sisters, no children, no Mom, no soulmate, I am a vegetarian vegan-wannabe person in a meat-friendly country. The divide between me and the rest of people that surround me apparently seems to get bigger and bigger. I became the "auntie" of my girlfriend's children, but they are now old enough to know I am really not their aunt...
My T was the only one who always supported me in all my believes and always accepted me and validated me, against the rest of the world, against all odds. And now he is not here by my side, and I still have this overwhelming despair most of the time. It just will not go.
And I am not even dwelling into the subject of how unlikely it is to hit the lottery again...
Just wondering if there are any total misfits like me out there, and how do you cope, how do you find any hope...
My T was the only one who always supported me in all my believes and always accepted me and validated me, against the rest of the world, against all odds. And now he is not here by my side, and I still have this overwhelming despair most of the time. It just will not go.
And I am not even dwelling into the subject of how unlikely it is to hit the lottery again...
Just wondering if there are any total misfits like me out there, and how do you cope, how do you find any hope...
This reminds me of my first Christmas w/out Bob ...
The post "Island of Misfits" was on a different widow/er website ...
Truthfully I shared alot of the same feeling about how I perceived myself in relationship to others when I was younger. My wife taught me to be at peace with myself regardless of what others thought. What a gift. I am truly sorry for your loss. Losing the person who makes us feel complete is a huge adjustment, Please be gentle on yourself and take it one day at a time. That is all any of us can do.
The despair I totally get. Seek out a grief support grief or counsellor if available. It made a huge difference in my journey. Gerald
For myself I felt like a misfit as well as others ...
It was a good analogy to identify with & a funny one, too ...
I have a miniature tree w/Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer ornaments ...
I put it up every year; it reminded to look for acceptance & change ...
Nowadays, it reminds me of the most profic journey of my life ...
And how I had the strength to endure it ...