Hi and welcome. I am so sorry you had to come join us. This is the best place to come. We all get it, we're all in this together. You have quite the journey ahead, I've been widowed since July 1,2014. The blessed fog has lifted, and I miss it. It protects you from reality.
Come back as often as you need, someone's always here.
Hugs,
Rachel

Hi Inspired and welcome. I'm at only 3 months, and first 2 are almost a complete blur to me. I didn't begin to be able to cope until I stumbled onto this site. What a blessing all these loving and caring people are. No one can comprehend what we are going through unless they've gone through it as well. No death impacts like losing the love of your life - we were joined spiritually to them, and now we have a major void inside of us. With them, we were complete. Now, we are just empty and sad and lonely and hurting and mixed up and ... you understand. But, we've got to go through this pain to get to whatever awaits us on the other side. ~ Scott

I'm so sorry for your loss..
I understand when you say you never thought you would be a widow so young...I'm 45...my husband was 15 years older than me, but he should have had another 20 years at least, by my thinking...it's been 24 weeks for me.
You have come to the right place here for support...people here totally get it, and are very compassionate, helpful and understanding. Again, I'm so sorry..

My deepest condolences. My wife passed at age 54. At 4 weeks, you are still very early in grief. I am at 6.5 months and still adjusting. Make sure you eat and sleep, even just a little. Try to do exercise if possible. At this point, you need to take care of yourself. Take one day at a time. Come here often. Let your friends and family know your feelings. See your doctor if you don't feel well. Maybe find a grief support group or counseling if possible. Hugs, tiger

Hello and welcome. Why anyone would ever WANT to join a club like this escapes me. None want to be here but for me I need to be here. I too have just reached four weeks. I bulled my way though the first week. Seeing to getting everything done.
It is now, in the quite of the house, I turn to here. A club I wish I did not have to join, but is thankful for.

So sorry for your loss. It is likely that you will grieve to some extent for the rest of your life .After time grief will be a part of you but it will not define who you are. Right now it is your identity and is all consuming. Just try to go through the motions of day to day living, take care of yourself physically by making yourself eat and rest. Get some books on grief so you understand what is happening. Don't isolate yourself, expect people to say stupid things and be prepared to be hurt and forgive them for their ignorance. As time passes it will get better, not fast enough and not completely, but life will be ok eventually maybe even good.

I am so sorry for your loss. We are all on the same journey, through this minefield of grieving. I found much comfort here in the early days of loss. At seven months in I can tell you I don't have a lot of good days, but I am not having nearly as many bad days. The first couple of months i was on this site all the time. It helped me cope with all the emotions i was going through. Hugs Patti

I will also be at 4 weeks on monday, I'm out 34 but had almost 19 years together, 6 married. It's been rough people on this site have been comforting good luck to you msg me if u need to talk

I am so sorry for your loss at such a young age. You are in the very early stages of grieving. I am at 15 months and those first few months were dark and painful. I can tell you that I am having more good days than bad. It is a roller coaster ride of emotions. I am slowly getting to the acceptance stage of grieving. Art is not coming back and my life has changed. I have hope for my new life without him but will miss him each and every day. You have found a wonderful site. We all understand what you are going through. Take baby steps at first and as the others said, eat and rest. Come here often for love and support. Hugs. Sue

Hi. I am sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine losing a husband after 15 years of marriage. You mentioned that you never thought you would be a widow at 42. I never thought I would be a widow at 24 years old. I had only known my fianc for two years, but it was still heartbreaking. Losing a loved one is never easy. It has been seven months for me today. I know people will tell you it gets better, and it is hard to believe. It is a slow process, but someday you will be able to enjoy life again. Try to do things that you would enjoy. Things that keep you busy. For me, it was working out. I spent my time working out, finishing school, and working. Find something that used to make you happy. Someday you will feel better again.

I'm so sorry. I'm just over 6 months now, and I remember at 4 weeks I was in really bad shape. As you might be aware, medication can help. It helped me a lot back then, but now I'm finding I need to get away from the side effects.

Some people who are used to helping others have trouble asking for help themselves. If you need a push to get yourself to a therapist, consider yourself gently pushed. And hugged.

Of course you are still grieving my friend. Four weeks is such a short period of time (that feels like forever). Please don't push yourself too hard to 'feel better' or be over your grief by now. This journey is a long and arduous one. We must travel it in small increments, as day by day . . . sometimes moment by moment. We do eventually survive it and learn to thrive in our new norm. My deepest condolences to you for your recent loss. Hang in there . . we're hanging with you. Hugs, hugs and more hugs, Dayna

Your grief is still so new and raw; of course this time is difficult for you. Your life has changed drastically. No matter how long or short the time with our partner was, we are never truly ready to not have them with us. This path of grief is a process. proceed at your own comfort level. Cry when you need to, feel the emotions as they come. They will be uncomfortable, but you will come to a place in time where you will be better. For now, take gentle care of yourself. Remember to drink lots of water (crying is dehydrating), eat nourishing foods (even several small meals each day is better than none), rest when you need to (it's amazing how much energy grieving uses!); and try writing in a journal each day. Come to this site as often as you need to. We are here for you and will walk this walk with you. You are not alone. Wishing you peace. Sharon k.

I'm sorry for your loss, you have found a place of love and support here. I lost my husband in 2007 and remain here to support others along with my friends cliffs Kat. (Martha ) & marjoe (Marsha). We came here broken and those here were so helpful we wanted to help others.

I married my high school sweetheart and had never been on my own. I hope you find understanding and support with us. Sharon

Dear Inspired, I am truly sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your heart out. Your grieving is still very raw. Whilst we all grieve in different ways, I guess the best way at this stage would be to share with people who can relate to what you are going through. Great you found this site.So keep it coming. Big hugs and my prayers are with you at this deep time of sorrow....Hugs from Islands...Much love!