Why not, just have a small gathering at the cemetary. Say a prayer? Sing a song? Then maybe join some close friends and family for a nice meal at a restaurant? Everything has turned so commercial anymore. Why do we even think we don't have the right do march to the beat of a different drummer? Hang in there. Whatever you decide to do will be perfect.

Just because a headstone is in does not mean you have to do anything. Take your time and do what you feel up to. Funerals and services are for the living not the dead.

Hugs,
Val

I ditto the previous posts. Please don't over tax yourself in trying to plan unless you've already committed to a plan and people are expecting an exact memorial service on an exact date, etc. Do within your own timeline and energy resources as you can. My heart goes out to you. Hugs, D

Tracy, and the nightmare goes on! It seems we do some of this to ourselves.

Don't feel like you MUST do something NOW! You don't! It all takes time and the time doesn't have an expiration date on it!!!!!

Let it be more organic and when your heart feels its right!

We're all here with you,
Roz

Thank you all so much for the kind words and advice.
Rozmorey, it sure does appear that we tend to put these unnecessary pressures on ourselves.
I promise to take some deep breaths and follow my heart.