Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My wife died suddenly 4 months ago. We were together 50 years. I truly loved her and miss her and the life we shared. Am I a horrible person to want someone to talk to (preferably a widow) to share my daily life with. I am not trying to replace my wife. No one ever could.
Our children have been wonderful and I spend a great deal of time with them, but they have their own lives and children and are giving up time with them to spend time with me. In some ways, I feel guilty and selfish.
I will not tell my children or friends for fear they will hate me, but I have considered trying online dating, with all its drawbacks and pitfalls.
I wonder if companship will help me heal or make things worse. To be clear, this is not about sex. That is the farthest thing from my mind now. I imagine I would cry if the opportunity presented itself today. Any advice would be welcome
I highly recommend a bereavement support group. I've been widowed for about a year and half and like you longed for companionship but I have come the conclusion that I am just not ready for any type of relationship at this point in my life. I joined a grief support group through (www.griefshare.org) . Just finished a 13-week course before Christmas and it was wonderful! It was faith based and filled with people from all walks of life and every stage of grief. I just didn't understand the grief process at all and had warring, raging emotions. In a bereavement support group, you'll get the companionship and friendship you are seeking while understanding how to navigate the grief journey plus you'll have a firm destination to go to every week. I wish you so much luck and a fulfilling 2017.