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Nicker07 01/30/2011

My husbands two sons are still insisting in paperwork through their attorney that I find the wedding ring that my husband wore when married to their mother.

She was seeing a guy at work in 1993, my husband told me when he confronted him the guy cut it off with her, but another sad sap co worker stepped in and consoled her as she was devastated. (Shes not very stable still emotionally). She moved in with Guy 2 in 1994 (I have Rogers diary regarding it including up to when he met me in Sept. 1995)

I have never seen him with this ring and he had been dating in 1995 off and on with other women so I would imagine it had been long gone.
As long as I have been with him dating from 1995, moved in together 1997 married 1999 I never ever saw it. I know its not in our home we purchased ourselves.

Altho' they have been told this they still pursue the issue.
My attorney wrote a nice letter stating that its not here, I have never seen it but if I come across such a ring I will return it to them.
BUT here again another letter regarding it.
I am sick of it -

Any good advice what to say to them? I can not repeat here what I would like to I just thought maybe some one you with words of wisdom would come up with some good things to say.

deleted_user 01/30/2011

I can't think of anything nice and when I can't think of anything nice I usually say nothing at all. I just ignore the rudeness sometimes that tells them more than words. They seem to have been given an answer it is not your fault they did not accept it! Sorry you have to go through this!

missingmyabby 01/30/2011

All correspondence must be addressed to my attorney. Then do it! Anything that you receive from them just put in an envelope and forward to your attorney, don't even open it! Let your attorney deal with the morons! That's what you pay him for.
Ken
Oh, sorry, maybe I'm not being nice, not that I would care if I were you.

deleted_user 01/30/2011

I think Ken's advice is spot on. How damn insensitive of the lot of them.

Carla

pathoflife 01/30/2011

Ken's advice is right on target. Don't open it but either hand carry or forward it to your attorney via a pocket envelope, not just writing a forwarding address on the present envelope. If you need proof that you forwarded it and he received it (which would be advisable since they are causing such a problem), send it certified with proof of receipt. It doesn't cost that much and you are covered if they question your honesty. You are paying your legal counsel big buck to keep you sheltered from harassment. Allow your attorney to deal with them and save your nerves. TJ

lovelos 01/30/2011

I agree with Ken. You shouldn`t have to deal with this...you have enough to deal with,

Hugs Lu Ann

Nicker07 01/30/2011

What has happened is through attorneys they want me to respond to if or when I ever saw it or looked for it.

I told my attorney I am not going to spend one precious moment on any ring of hers. But he said we have to address it even tho' my attorney previously responded its not here, never seen it, if I ever find it will let them know (I WILL NOT I WILL throw it in the river)

Hows this: NOT MY PROBLEM, do not involve me in an adulterous affair that was before my time.

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