Hi Darlene-another one is my late husband. Yes he was late a few ties who isn't? Late husband sounds like he is gonna walk in the room at any time. Thanks for the post.

Hi, Darlene. Humor was such a large part of mine & Bobby's marriage. I could never be with someone who didn't make me laugh & he could always make me laugh no matter what was going on. I know that humor continues with him because he has done some really funny things to me, his family, and friends since he passed away too. We all just say, Bobby's at it again. Thanks for sharing. You brought a smile to my face. :):)

Reading Your Post, bought back a Memory, to Me. Years, Ago, after an Argument, My Husband and I went to Bed, still a bit, Grumpy, with each other. I Turned to Him and said, " Go ahead, tell Me One, big thing, You like about Me" He turned to Me and said, " You make Me Laugh " I Tried.

I look at it this way, when my husband died, I lost myself.
ReneeArose

The only place I ever lost Mike was in Sears... found him in the tool dept. He is gone and no words can justify this.

Maggie

Thanks Darlene for the smile...it is true...My Mike had an awesome sense of humor- very witty and very dry- and he could always make me laugh...
and you're right ...I didn't "lose" him...I have his ashes on the dresser in the bedroom and his spirit is in heaven...just where I knew he would be!
Sometimes we gotta laugh....hugs, Jill

LOL...it is odd what comes to mind...when we finally left the hospital I was allowed to take a tiny...sickly...baby spider off a long neglected plant in the hospital waiting room. I brought it home and tended it and cared for it...while I was tending and caring for Bill (before he died). The spider plant has thrived and is huge now. One afternoon in one of those out loud musings I caught myself telling him while re-potting the spider for the umpteenth time

"You see, honey...If you had been a Philodendron or a Dieffenbachia...I could have sooooooooo saved you."

Hi Darlene- Tom and I had a sense of humor about his cancer. We thought it was better than crying all the time. During his last week, he would wake up in the morning, and roll over to me, and smile. i would then say, I guess today isn't your day. Sick, I know, but that's how we played off each other!!

He used to say to me "Pook, when all this is over and I'm better, I'll owe you BIG TIME!" I used to say back "Yep Sparky, you'll be jumping often, and HIGH!! lol" But guess in the end that's just what he did. He jumped VERY HIGH indeed.

Thanks for sharing this! Makes me remember all the laughs, and the JOY!!

HUGS, Diane

Cracked up when I read your post...I have often thought the same thing.........................and am so tempted sometimes to ask...........well whrere did you see him last?..........................or, Norm's is right there in the urn, where he can't get lost unless I forget where I put the urn....................dark humor???? Well I think anything helps ease the pain sometimes and if we aren't laughing............we could be crying..............and we all know the pain................
L

I don't use the words "passed away" or "lost" for the reasons you guys all wrote about.

I say that Bill died. Because that's what happened. The word "died" is shockingly true. Some people won't use it because it's insensitive. Well, death isn't sensitive. Just a brutal reality.

The words, "Bill died".................make it clear that he didn't intentionally walk away. Didn't intentionally leave us. I hate that "illusion."
I wish there was a short phrase to explain:
that he desperately tried to stay alive, didn't want to leave us!
Something like "ripped out of our life"

Thanks for the post. Smiles are just as important as tears. You made me smile. Melvin had a sense of humor too. Re: lost..... I lost him once in Home Depot. After walking the isles looking for him I gave up and guess where I found him? In the car waiting for me. Said he knew I'd come looking there sooner or later..... Did he know me or what?

You put that very well. Humor was always our way too. At Steve's funeral people kept asking "How are you?" finally the sick funny bone in me came out and when a close friend asked me how I was I said"I suck, my husband died" It was a weird thing to laugh over but....sometimes humor is what saves us.

in Louisiana we "Pass a Good time" and we also tend to ask questions that sound like statments like "you're going to the Game this weekend ?" I guess we're putting the "are" after the "you" to make one word or it's the whole "Baton Rouge" in French Means "Red Stick" in English but "Baton" doesn't mean "Red" Way of Speaking... and We also tend to leave words out of the sentence when we feel like we've said enough for you to complete the rest of the sentence, Like when I walk in the Cool House and say "Whew!!! it's HOT" most people around here Would know that I left the words " out there" out of the sentence and in other places people may ask me if I would like them to adust the air conditioning... Long Story Short ( "yea right" you say :-) When I go to "Pass a Good Time" I'm not going to "drive by" the festival but I'm actually going to the festival... having said that I quess that I say "My Wife passed away" I should say "My Wife Passed a way to be with the Lord" and the way was "Living With Faith" and "Professing that Faith"... I will tell people that "my Father died" and leave out the "and I don't know if he ever made his Peace with the Lord" so how I say it has, for a long time, been important to me... however the way other people say it to me depends on the context that they put it in... I know it's mostly a regional or cultural languistic "Faeux Pas"... If some one told me "I'm glad your wife passed away" they might want to make sure they have all of there affairs in order... but when someone tells me " I (insert message of condolance Here) on the (insert words such as passing, dying, death, loss, etc. Here) of your Wife.", it is translated in my heart to the way I believe it's meant in the words that comfort me the most... as long as it's not something stupid like "Bought the Farm" "Bit the Dust" "Cashed in the chips" and that list sure goes on too long... any way interesting topic and I was not offended and hope I didn't offend... I did find bits of humor in the post and humor is a big part of me that I feel has "died" at times and cherish the moments when I feel that maybe it's just "passing", so thanks for posting the topic......
....................All I have left to say is " I miss my wife and feel a tremendous Longing for her, but I hope that I helped her "pass a good time" while we were together... I know she sure helped me pass a good time, up to and until she passed away to be with Our Lord :-) even the bad times we passed thru, the Hurricanes and the Surgeries (mine and hers) seem like good times now because we were together, loving and doing the right thing for one another... and I Thank You Lord for Giving us That :-) and for DS too.

J used to tell me ,"I'll probably turn into a saint when I'm dead." Well, I don't think he is a saint but he sure was perfect enough for me. Can't wait to see him again. Besides, I'm the one who alwayd gets lost!