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missingmyabby 11/21/2010

I was cruising around this site while eating lunch when I happened on a comment that someone made that they were sick of eating low fat food. I was thinking that I won't do that, not anymore. If I want butter on my bagel then I want Butter dammit not some fake crap that will turn out to be bad for me in 20 years. If I want a beer, I want a good beer, Yeah I know, good luck with that in the US, not some watery nearly tasteless imitation beer. It's the same with everything I can think of, I only buy local whole milk, the best ice cream that I can find(local preferably) etc. Know what I ate first for lunch? My cookies. Life is too short, eat dessert first! Don't listen to doctors, they were so wrong so often I don't know where to begin. We would have been better off getting our medical advice from a local car dealer. I eat what I like only. I do what I want only. I sleep if I want. Not everyone can do everything that way but I think after losing one's love one's tolerance for crap should be seriously abbreviated. I think mine may be getting dangerously low. Oh well.

deleted_user 11/21/2010

I ate taco bell at least once a day for the first 9 months. I think it was the cilantro that finally ran me off.

deleted_user 11/21/2010

I agree! None of us knows when our time on this earth will end. We have all experienced that first hand. I am going to live my life the way I want. If people don't understand I don't care. Let them walk a mile in our shoes and then maybe they will have the same philosophy.

Joely 11/21/2010

I have to agree with you! Life is too short not to enjoy what we can ~~ while we can.
Hugs, Joely

michaelbmanning 11/21/2010

I agree to some extent, but I will not tell my kids this. They will want McDonalds every day.

msholiday282 11/21/2010

Hear, hear. You are so right. I'm beginning to wonder if it's all about money and not ones real health.

deleted_user 11/21/2010

If your kids want McDonalds everyday, make them watch "Supersize Me" on TV. The guy ate nothing but McD's for 30 days and nearly died. May have suffered bodily damage that will last for life.

I'm not a health food nut, but I also don't want to turn into the Blob!

deleted_user 11/21/2010

On Thanksgiving I'm picking up my friends Father who's 96 years old, and taking him to Thanksgiving dinner. They had a big celebration for his 95th and it was shortly after my husband died. It was the first social function I attended. I was happy for this dear man, but I cried all the way home feeling sorry for myself - my husband just turned 62. By the way, Jerry ate right, we went to a gym, he saw the Dr. on a regular basis and.....well look what happened. I guess the answer is enjoy your life. For me, I feel better when I eat right - maybe it's psychological??? BUT if chocolate was made illegal.....I'd be in jail!!!

deleted_user 11/21/2010

I too have been eating when and what I want. It is hard cooking for 1 person. So I have gone with the comfort food...pizza, mac and cheese, taco bell. Yes I have gained a few pounds but at this point I don't care. My plan is to start going back to Curves and working out. Having someting to do will help too.

deleted_user 11/21/2010

Try Murphy's Stout. It'll stick to your ribs. :-)

deleted_user 11/21/2010

I try to eat a little healthy but I do sometimes have dessert first or instead!

missingmyabby 11/21/2010

In general I don't like stouts, I still have a few Spaten Octoberfest darks left, if I have to I can buy Becks dark.
Ken

deleted_user 11/21/2010

HEY HEY HEY - if we eat/drink what we want we WILL be ''Stouts''.

NewRoadsForMe 11/21/2010

One of my favorite sayings has always been, "Nobody dies healthy." We will all die of an accident or disease. I would hate to know I passed up that chocolate cake the night before I died. Besides, I don't care how much longer I live here on earth. I do exercise every day but I cheat a lot on my eating "plan". What joys are left after your husband has died, your kids have families of their own and live elsewhere. My cat doesn't care how much I weigh and she still loves me. Old friends have gone their way. Food, unfortunately, is always there to comfort. But it has its price, too.

deleted_user 11/21/2010

I hear you. I eat what I want but I still try to buy organic. I take a lot of ribbing for it sincie I smoke, more now than ever, but I buy organic because the farmers aren't polluting the soil. If enough people buy it will become commonplace and cheaper. That's my soapbox. Anyway I pretty much gave up doing anything I don't want to do. No motivation to live by others expectation. Bascially feeling that when it's the time to die, it's time. I use to be afraid of death, not now. Use to be afraid of infirmity and dependence but that may happen or not. It's more like accepting what comes because there's nothing else you can do. Some call it fatalism, I think is realism. hug, Donna

tskks 11/22/2010

Absolutely. I find a little of the real stuff much more satisfying than a lot of the lowfat stuff. I hate that lowfat margarine with a passion. It's cut with water and makes your toast soggy.

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