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I came upon this by some weird action of reading a Daily Meditation book.....
A difficult challenge does little harm in comparison to the uncertainty of what to do about it.
To take action, let it ride, to stay or to go, to ask for help or wait ...
Indecision can wreck our whole thinking process and stall us out at a time that we most need a clear head. Our emotions rise and fall - from doing nothing to doing something. One minute we have a clear answer and the next we don't know what to do. Backward thinking - going foward and backing up...it doesn't get us anywhere but...while there nothing wrong with questioning, wavering gets everything out of focus.
Taking action with with a calm mind helps to clarify and give stability to the next step.
OK I read this and had a good laugh....nice words....ahhh but gosh how many times can you think of actually being strong enough at times to do this....action with a calm mind....
Even now when there are things that need done I am so exhausted thinking of OK heres the list and its overwhelming....AND I do dig in and hit them one by one but calmly???? Was someone up above sending me this as a message? OR a joke ????
NOW I know this is good advice and good thoughts I just kinda thought OK I need to try.....
A difficult challenge does little harm in comparison to the uncertainty of what to do about it.
To take action, let it ride, to stay or to go, to ask for help or wait ...
Indecision can wreck our whole thinking process and stall us out at a time that we most need a clear head. Our emotions rise and fall - from doing nothing to doing something. One minute we have a clear answer and the next we don't know what to do. Backward thinking - going foward and backing up...it doesn't get us anywhere but...while there nothing wrong with questioning, wavering gets everything out of focus.
Taking action with with a calm mind helps to clarify and give stability to the next step.
OK I read this and had a good laugh....nice words....ahhh but gosh how many times can you think of actually being strong enough at times to do this....action with a calm mind....
Even now when there are things that need done I am so exhausted thinking of OK heres the list and its overwhelming....AND I do dig in and hit them one by one but calmly???? Was someone up above sending me this as a message? OR a joke ????
NOW I know this is good advice and good thoughts I just kinda thought OK I need to try.....
I agree - sometimes "calm" just isn't in the picture! :)
I guess it's "nothing ventured - nothing gained" too.
Love and Hugs,
Martha
Great words and much easier said than done for sure.
I have done same as you. totally clear one moment and all muddy the next. I have accomplished many things in this last 15 months. (yesterday), and am proud that I did. But going through them all CALMLY? that's another story entirely! lol More like especially in the beginning kicking screaming and throwing tantums is more like it! BUT got er done! i think that's the thing. However we have to get her done, as long as we do, how we get there does not matter as much as getting there, if that makes sence? We all have our own ways to go through things and there is no right or wrong and no 'how to' book at least I haven't found it yet!
And Martha, that is excatly the phrase. something I repeated to myself every day for months!! and STILL do with every 'new' cvhallange that comes up, especially in the living in the here and now!
HUGS to all and may we all go through our challanges the way we need to, but may we all GET THROUGH THEM, knowing we have a safe place to vent when we need it!
Diane
You can be calm, and take awhile to make up your mind, or just go with it - I have lots to work on. Thanks for the post. G-