Most of my occasional anger is really protecting myself from being taken advantage of. At first it was people wanting my husband's belongings. Recently it's people showing up without an appointment to invest my money for me and people wanting to sign me up for insurance. I think I am justified in feeling irritable sometimes. Sometimes I am wrong and have to apologize. We are only human after all.

Wow, Lori & Sharon, I can so relate! My husband died last dec of rectal cancer. He also had always been si healthy - and bam! Stage IV cancer and fine 26 months later. I dint understand why/how something like that can happen, we had so many plans.

I dont feel angry at him for leaving me, but furious at cancer for taking him. Most of the time, like Sharon, I just feel sad.

I have noticed, though, that I'm getting angry at stupid things lately. Like my family being noisy when I'm trying to make mashed potatoes or they're trying to tell me how to make then without my usual ingredients (I was at my mother's house) and I ended up being up over the mixer! We're expecting snow tomorrow and I'm supposed to help my dad go to a dr appointment and I'm getting crabby about it, which I don't normally do.

I think it's because the holidays on top of the first anniversary of his death is being very hard on me and the grief and stress is just boiling over.

Yes, anger is one of the grief stages and very common, but dint discount the power of stress., it makes everything worse.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and you're so new in your grief. This is a good place to come. -Judy