Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My husband passed away suddenly two months ago. He went to bed all happy looking forward to going hunting the next morning but never woke up. I heard his alarm and went to wake him but...he had passed away in his sleep. I hope to find support with this group to help me get through this sad journey. I feel blessed that he did not suffer. Thank you for listening.
Through tears, Vicki
Through tears, Vicki
Take care of yourself. Stay strong we are here for you.
Hugs, Sandi
I am so sorry your loss of your husband. My husband also died very suddenly and unexpectedly almost 14 months ago. My grief journey has been rough, but with the help of this group I have survived and am now in the process of trying to build a new life. You may have days when you feel you won't survive, but you will. You have come to the right place to find what you need help make your road a little smoother. We've all been where you are. Please feel free to come here often for any help and support you need. We'll all be here for you.
Warm hugs,
Linda
hugs
Wishing you peace . . .
my husband also passed with absolutely no warning. I was made aware just before dawn. married 41 years.
I am so sorry you are going through this loss. I understand the shock you are experiencing. That does take some time.
There is so much about losing a spouse that we all share, and many parts of our grief which are uniquely our own.
You have found a place where you will never have to fear about whether or not your grief fits in with all the people in this room.
You are not alone.
Honestly, not sure how I would have fared if I had not found people in this forum. In a way, it is shocking how alone and separate we can feel, out in the world among those who don't walk in our shoes. but not here.
Be patient with yourself, as you grope along this path. We are all learning as we go.
It is one step at a time.
Breathe.
an occasional nap.
try to pace yourself out. time happens.
many warm hugs.
Love,
Barbara.
Ruth
I hope you find peace.
You just wrote my story exactly. I ate supper with my wife on Monday night the sixteenth of August last summer. Next morning I got up and kissed her before leaving for work. I came back five hours later and she had gone home in her sleep. There was no warning. She said nothing about feeling sick or poorly. Everything was normal. I came in and thought she was sleeping in. I rolled her over and I knew. I froze and could not believe what had happened. I still can't come to terms with this. Linda always feared suffering with a stroke or something that would immobilize her; taking away her quality of life, so I feel blessed for her that at least she went home peacefully. I will keep you in my prayers.
Peace, Tim
I am at slightly over 7 1/2 months since I lost my wife
suddenly and I well know the pain you are going through.
At 2 months or so, I was just getting over shock but it
was mixed with reality and the turmoil had a massive
impact on my friend brain.
Somewhere around 2 to 3 months, I finally reached a
decision to stop thinking about tomorrow or next week
or next year. I started taking everything one hour at a
time. Gradually, I have moved to one day at a time but
still revert to one hour at a time occasionally.
Everyone handles it somewhat differently and I guess
it depends on whether you are surrounded by family
or friends and other circumstances. For me, I spend
a great deal of time at my kitchen table with some large
photos of her and with some candles and I write letters
to her while I recall happy times we enjoyed together
over 30+ years. The pages of my journals ( now on my
third one ) are often tear stained but writing to her has
brought back many, many memories of good things I
had long forgotten. Big things, Small things. But they
were things we did or enjoyed together. At first, my
letter writing seemed a bit depressing. Gradually, however,
I think about it during the day and make a note here or
there to write about something in the evening. Somehow,
it brings me even closer to her and I can almost feel her
presence at times. I have not read my journals from the
past several months and have no idea what I shall do with
them eventually. I just know it is helping me as she
existed and I see it in my own words.
I wish I could offer more advice but I just wanted to let
know how one person is handling his nightmare.
You are in my thoughts -
Darrell from Texas