Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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akdeen 08/10/2013

It's been 4 1/2 months and this is not getting any easier. I'm staying at our home tonight something I've only done twice since my husband of 38 years died. My daughters don't understand why I can't keep staying with them. I need to be in my own home I can't keep living with them. I want to be able to grieve alone and be able to see if I can get through this. The house is so lonely without him here. My daughters have their own families and they need to be living their lives. I love my daughters, son in laws and grandchildren so much but I think this is a journey I need to make alone. Has anyone else had a hard time staying home? Sleeping in our bed I haven't even attemped yet it hurt too much. Kaye

deleted_user 08/15/2013

Sorry for your loss...My daughters stayed with me for 3 weeks after my husband. passed, but I felt I needed the alone time....I couldn't sleep in the bedroom for awhile, so when I was ready, I just downsized the bed and rearranged...It is lonely, but I'm with you, really not ready to live with family yet.

BCHRISTINA 08/15/2013

I have been staying alone for almost 3 weeks now. On the beginning, I couldnt get any sleep. It was too painful. Now, I seem to have a solution.. I just leave my tv on in the bedroom, I bought a full body pillow (the one that makes an U around your body), take 1 or 2 tylenols PM, put my mask on and I can usually sleep 8 hours like that. I think a full body pillow will help you so much because it takes space on the bed and its almost like he is hugging u!
xoxo stay strong.
take it easy. its ok to cry and be angry and do whatever else you feel like.

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