Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Lois11 03/10/2015

Its so hardbto believe and wonder where 4 years have gone since the love of my life my soulmate and best friend left me. The 11th of March was the last time I heard his voice tell me he loved me. I wiped his tears and I said " Morning Sweet Cheeks, I love you" He then fell unreponsive. Was put on life support. No brain activity so all machines shut down the next day.
People can't get over I'm not looking to date. I never will.
I just would love one of his hugs and he tell me he loves me and a kiss.
I don't dwell anymore on being alone and life has gotten easier

BandiBlue 03/10/2015

Lois,
It's so nice to read a post from a kindred spirit. Despite suggestions from friends, I don't see dating in my future. I'm not as far along as you are, but I know I will always feel this way. I miss the hugs, too.
Wishing you peace . . .

russ1153 03/10/2015

I lost my wife 3/12/13 and its still so hard. Take care.
Russ

ramar 03/10/2015

I'd like to be were I don't dwell anymore on being alone and for life to be easier...

So sorry for your loss because I too can't even think of being with anyone else.

For now I just remember..

Again so sorry for your loss.....

deleted_user 03/11/2015

My wife's birthday is 3/12/58.....NOT looking forward to it. 1st birthday without her.

Livingbyfaith 03/11/2015

its been a year and a half for me, getting harder. This is a rough journey helped only by reading this site. Others who no clue what we are going thru.

matoacalady 03/11/2015

lois, I do understand.....I miss his wonderful hugs and the sound of his voice....at first I could not remember the sound of his voice and would call his phone to hear his message.

I have no desire to date or have another husband.....I could never go thru this again. I just want to find a way to deal with this awful pain and being so lonely.

themaster 03/11/2015

The thought of being with someone else is just plain wrong, to me. I know its early on, but we were just too perfect for one another.

I searched for many years, dating around and no one ever came close, until I met her. We never fought (only the occasional minor argument), never had any animosity. She told me she loved me, every single day. At 1st, I wasnt used to it and thought it was a bit much, but I grew to like it and told her the same. She would say it several times a day, when we werent at work. I felt special and greatly appreciated it.

deleted_user 03/11/2015

I was so lucky too. Morey and I NEVER left each other without saying "I love you!" Neither mine or his parents ever said the words and I promised him after I first said it to him and he said it back to me, that we would ALWAYS say it to our children and to each other!

I'm not ready to commit myself to another. I love the company and the friendship of others but to commit just doesn't feel right, yet!

The memories that we all have and share with each other are priceless and I love hearing them.

Roz

deleted_user 03/11/2015

I hope it gets better. I feel so lost almost 9 mo for me. You give me hope. I too am not looking for anyone. I met my husband in grade 12 in my physics class. I miss everything about him. It is quiet and lonely in our dream house that he never got to enjoy.

Trici 03/12/2015

Hi,
At twenty months, I no longer feel lost. I am in my new reality. It's been a hard road. I'm seeing friends, traveling, supporting causes I believe in, so I'm fulfilling my obligation to be alive.
I miss hearing him tell me he loves me, and his arms around me. I'm still very much in love with him. He's in my heart and in my head. There's no room for anyone in my bed.

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