Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
It’s been 3 months (the longest 3 mons of my life) since you’ve been gone. It all still feels so surreal. I still wake every night at 3 am to look for you, to see if this is all real. And as sad as it maybe, it is. I miss you so much. There are no words to describe exactly how I feel. There are so many things I still wish I could say to you. Kayleigh is so big now. I wish you would see her. She learned how to walk a month ago. She’s so grown. How I wish you would’ve been able to experience this with me. I don’t know how I am going to this without you. I miss you so much. How I wish you were here Danny.
Your post remind me of one of Catherine Tidd's blog writings.
https://www.dailystrength.org/journals/the-widow-time-zone
It would be good for you to read some of her other writings as well.
A difficult thing is to adjust to your new environment – the one without your husband. Make small moves to change things. Would a pet in the house make it a more welcoming place? See about regularly scheduled phone calls to friends and relatives. Get outside if possible and let nature help you in processing your grief. Music can help.
Invest your emotional energy in healthy relationships. Is there a mom’s group in your area? Is there a counseling program at a local church that might help you? All these things are ways to help you through the process. The goal is not to grieve, then forget. It is to get you to the point where you can remember and honor your loved one without roadblocks to living your life. I am so sorry you find yourself in this place. Keep on keeping on, it will get better. Life will be good again. I have prayed for you. Blessings.