Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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tikibell1 12/14/2013

I have been with DS along time. It will be 7 years in March. I have suffered from depression my whole life as a child it was never mentioned cause it was taboo as was talking about private family business that caused the depression. Suffering from depression has made it harder to move forward in my life that's for sure and right now I have serious family issues going on which has cost me most of my finances and sent me in a downward spiral. My depression is really bad and I miss my rock he was what got me through my darkest days but because of him and DS I am still hanging on sometimes by a thread but I am strong and I will build on that thread because I have to. I do not post much but I read every day and feel your pain. It will get better and DS will help it to happen. Our husbands and wives are cheering us on they wanted us to be happy when they were here and I know they continue to want that.

gerald222 12/14/2013

I have a sister I am close to who suffers from clinical depression. So often people look for a cause and effect relationship with depression and often a severe depressive episode will hit with no warning and no apparent cause(the research says it is tied to a chemical imbalance in the body. But so much is not known about it).
Just like grief waves it will sneak up on you and often manifests symptoms similar to grief. That 7 years later after dealing with grief and clinical depression as well as ongoing family issues you are able to post and give hope to others to me is a true symbol of strength within you. It tells people that are dealing with mental health issues beyond grief yes you can still move forward. You have for the last 7 years with all its up and downs. I can totally understand you missing your rock as I very much miss my wife as a confidante and support. You are 100% right though. They are cheering us on as we move forward and when we fall I think they are even there to give us a nudge back onto our feet. Please keep building on that thread to create a blanket that will comfort you when the going gets tough. Thank you for encouraging others life does move forward even 7 years later and even when other issues are at play also. I truly wish you a sense of peace. God bless. Gerald

tikibell1 12/14/2013

I take a very low dose of anti depressant the doctor would prefer a higher dose and I tried it but it left me blah and feeling not much of anything. I take the lower dose to help me function on a more even keel but I need to be able to feel and grieve and live the best way I can! I struggle every day but I will survive and I will try and make my life mean something even if it by taking small baby steps and sometimes taking them backwards! Thank You for your post! Hugs!

jewells1 12/14/2013

Tiki this is a post of hope for many reasons. I understand the need for extra help, even before my husband passed. So here is a prayer of strength, you have been in this for a long haul, but are still here. We are here for you as well so post when you can, but give yourself the credit you deserve in making it as far as you have.
You give me hope that it is possible regardless of the drawbacks.

Hugs,
Jewells.

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