Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
HI, it will be 3 weeks in exactley 32 minutes. Feels like both yesterday and ages ago and for some reason also seemed like the middle of the night. This was really my 1st real weekend and I know I did too much. First week was the weekend after the services so family were still around, 2nd week was Easter (way too soon for me) and then back to work. This weekend was the 1st true weekend. Feel like I am only now settling n and even at that still alot of artificial activity around.. I feel like I did way too much the weekend and will pay for it later. My fear is this will all hit like a brick when I least expect it. How long did it take reality to sink in for you?
As an aside, I just joined this evening, but I've been reading your posts off and on the last atwo weeks and they have been helpful. thank you all for sharing.
As an aside, I just joined this evening, but I've been reading your posts off and on the last atwo weeks and they have been helpful. thank you all for sharing.
I am just 7 months into the journey, and have not really felt like I have accepted it. I know that I am in denial most of the time, and just try not to think about it. I to am worried it will just hit one day and everything will turn upside down.
The first few months I was in a deep deep fog, just going through the motions, telling everyone I was fine, when truly I wasn't. Learn from me on this, it is better to be honest, about how you are doing then to pretend you are ok.
I found that this group was the one place that I could come to and epxress my feelings, and ask questions, that truly understood and did not judge me or have un reasonable expectations that I just get over it, and start my new normal as they put it. ( I don't like that phrase).
We all understand what you are going through, and while each of us is on a different journey, you will usually find one of us who has experienced what you are going through at the time, or had the same questions. Won't allways be the same person, but some one usually has.
I learned early on that I could not understand what my children were going through losing thier mother, anymore than they could understand what I was going through losing my life partner and best friend.
That is why I think this group is so wonderful, they do know, they have been through it or are going through it. There are times you are going to think you are loosing your mind, and you will be re-assured that we have all experienced that before, or that it is normal to feel that way.
Please keep coming back, this group will help you in more ways than you know. And the best part is I can participate when I want and don't have to if not feeling up to it - nobody saying oh it is your turn. lol.
My wy sweet wife rest in peace, and be patient and wait for me on the other side, where when the time is mine, i will join her and we will be one again.
CD