Dear Sharon,

I am so sorry for your lose. But I am so glad you found us here. I too lost my husband to a sudden motorcycle accident six weeks ago today. I understand EVERYTHING you said. I am afraid things are still so new for me I can't give any advice, except that there are bad days, and not so bad days, and I am told there will eventually be good days again. But I have found wonderful people here, and it does seem to help to write things out and get some feedback.

Much love going your way, maybe we can relearn to walk together.
Paula

Hi Sharon, I'm Sharon too. From upstate NY and a DS supported survivor of loss. I'm sorry you have found youself suffering from loss, but hope you will find your visits here one that makes you feel strong and supported as you travel this path of terror.

Hope to hear from you often. You can quietly read or rant and rage til you feel better. We are here for each other. Sharon

Sharon, so sorry your circumstances have led you here but happy you are reaching for help and that means you have hope. I can only say that you will read so many inspiring stories and see yourself in many things you read and hope that keeps you coming back as it has me. I know all well meaning family and friends are not what will make that pain go away and i think truth is nothing makes it go away and for now I guess your focus on getting through each moment is the important thing. Allow yourself to grieve in the way you need to. I hope you are able to eat and rest some. I hope you come here and I will pray for you

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to DS --it's a place you will find understanding and support--it will become a life support system in the following weeks and months. Everyone here has been through the same loss and we at least understand what you are feeling. Reaching out to others who understand is a step in the right direction. Hugs
Wanda

Dear Sharon,

I am so sorry for your broken heart. I lost my husband suddenly 6 months ago.

These people on this site has saved my life. I throw all the crazy crap that has happened and there is always a warm hug around the keyboard, even at 3 in the morning.

Peace to you
Dually

Hi Sharon. I am so sorry for your loss. I am so glad you found DS. It has helped me so much. It really helps to come here to vent or just read the posts from others going through the same grief as us. We learn from each other and give each other support which helps so much. Take care of yourself and take it day by day. I was married for almost 45 years so I know how hard it is to lose someone you have shared your life with so many years. Take care and know we are glad you are here. Hugs, Terry

I am sorry for your loss Sharon. I am glad you have found us here on DS and you will meet and find great friends here.

Sharon,

From your pain you have come to us. Welcome to our circle of grief. My husband died on Valentine's Day this year and, although the rush of pain that caused was new to me, coming here was the salve that has my broken heart healing.

I had no idea that one's heart could actually HURT! Thought that was just an expression. Thought a lot of things, especially that that pain would NEVER stop and that I was about to go over the cliff to insanity.

This warm, caring group of angels are here to help each other heal - first by grabbing hold of the hand of those who, on any given day, need that hand; then, by hanging on - all of us to each other - and slogging through the arduous climb up and out of the abyss into which we've all been thrown.

Get ready for the ride of your life! Not gonna' lie - it may, and probably will, get worse. You're gonna' feel like a candle that suddenly melts into a pool of wax - more often than you can imagine. You're gonna' have good days that make you think, "Ah, it's good to feel better." Then, most often without warning - wham! That Grief Monster's gonna' hit you and you're gonna' think Arnold Schwarzenegger just ran into the room and body-slammed you. BUT, take heart! That's why we're here.

Grab a shoulder to cry on, a hand to squeeze, an ear to listen. One day - and I promise you this (I don't take making promises lightly) - you will be able to smile, then laugh, then share your good times with those, who just like you now, need to hear that this horror will not last forever.

Hugs,
Terry

I just wanted to thank all of you for taking the time to reach out to me. Your kindness, love and prayers have touched this broken heart. The offers of a place to come for comfort , help and most of all understanding have helped get me through yet another day. I have been reading through the blogs and I could not stop crying while I read all the pain pouring out of each typed paragraph. I have now added a new prayer for all of you, asking God to give us all the courage and strength to go forward and to let us find some moments of peace.

Sharon

Sharon;
Those tears for yourself and others will help in a strange way. There are millions of tears in each of us and they must come out.

I lost my Charlie on April 9 2012. We had been married for 45 years. Nothing in my life prepared me for this horror. I think people tell you you are strong because that is how they want you to be. You do not have to be strong.

I joined DS at about a month out like you. Coming here, writing about Charlie and our love is what has kept me going. I have met some really good people here.

I pray you find some comfort and peace. Julie